Help with 6 Year Old's Behavior.

I have a 5 year old that is just about the same way. she has a very bad potty mouth and is angry very easily. i am thinking i need help on this situation as well.

honestly just about everyone goes through this at some time or another. I have a 9, 8 and 3 year old. The 2 oldest are girls. ALL kids will test thier bounderies to see how far they can get. I do agree with some about trying to get it under control now, But she does not need to see a professional. When she is acting like this try not to let her know getting upset, and most of all acknowledge her feelings!! i.e. " i know you are upset right now but we can't tallk until you calm down, so when you do calm down please come and see me." try to make her think you are ignoring her until she calms down and then talk with her. If anything YOU can speak with a professional on haw to handle
things. THis is what really helped me though. good luck

I have a 7 year old son and he sometimes can also be a little button pusher. I also have a 31, 30, 27 and 16 year old daughter and a 22 and 12 year old stepdaughter. I've also been a single Mom and have had similiar issues. From past experiences I agree with some of the other Moms that it appears she is acting out for what ever reasons. I do agree you may need to get her under control and if the things you've tried are not working I would get in a class or seek professional help. My oldest was my most rebellious ever and looking back she had lots of reasons. We went to Adult and Child Mental Health and they really helped with some similiar issues. I did find that taking away privledges help but most importantly be a person of your word. Sometimes grounding also grounds you. Essay punishments seem to work but give her a deadline, at 6 this may be a little hard but she could draw a picture. We also have done what we call pioneer day which consist of NO electronics, no tv, no computer, no telephone etc. We played games and talked, my kids did not like the idea at first, threw a fit but now they ask when are we going to do it again. She just may need some one on one doing fun stuff. I have grandaughters her age and usually they are wanting some attention you just need to gently guide her on the appropriate way to get the kind of attention she needs. Adult and Child is a great place for how too's with children. Or you may find a group at your church. Sometimes churches have classes for parents and don't be affraid to go. There will be other parents just like you with someone with good tips. Hope this helps.

I would take her to a counsler before it gets much worse.
Good Luck!

I am with you girl. I have a 6 yr. old to and for the last few weeks it has been getting worse. I don't know what to do and I too am in tears all the time today. I do everything I can for her I am here for her to talk to but now I am the worse mom and we are the worst family. I know we are not she has it good maybe that is the prob. she has it too good. I had to call the school this morning (she is in a summer reading program) and tell them to please disregard the message I left yesterday after school because my daughter lied to me and told me she was getting beat on by a kid at school. Then yesterday she put her dog in a duffle bag before school and I didn't find it till 4 almost 5 hours later. The dog was soaking wet from being in there and if I hadn't found her she prob. would had died. I am at a total loss. If some could help me and H. that would be great. Thank you so much. At least we know we are not alone H. I am here with you.
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It sounds to me like something traumatized her. Like maybe a lost of a friend or a love one. Something that made her really mad. It sounds like whatever she very upset about - she is taking out on you. I hate even this being a possible but could someone have touch in an inappropriate way. I know it is a scary thought and I pray to God not. But that is one the signs. But it can be caused from others things too. Just given you all the possibles. maybe getting a counselor might help figure out where all this angry coming from. I wish you the best...... T.

My little girl is five, and I think that if she were acting like this, I would sit her down and tell her that the way she's acting towards me is unacceptable, and moreso, just not the person who I know she is. I would tell her that she can tell me anything, and if there's something she's mad at, that she would never get in trouble for telling me and that I will not get mad. Give her a chance to talk it out. If she says it's nothing, then I would lay out some consequences for her. Have certain things that will happen if she acts that way. I don't believe in "grounding", but I strongly believe that taking precious things away from them works, and also physical chores are a great way to teach them lessons. You could give her a job outside like pulling weeds, or something that takes a long time that will make her think twice about the behavior the next time she feels like acting out. Basically, you have to get control of her now, because if this doesn't get controlled now, you'll be in for some real problems when she's a teenager. "Parenting with Love and Logic" is an incredible book. If you're at a loss for what to do that works, pick up a copy and try some of their methods. I use a lot of them and the times I've done so work really great.

wow im sorry to hear this... have there been any major changes?? new baby divorce a move??? alot of times that can cause a lot of stress. it may be something your not even seeing maybe problems at school. but i would find a child physiologist and have her evaluated b/c sometimes children like that dont understand consequences of their actions and that can get very dangerous later on in life