Help on Temper Tantrums

My daughter does not quite throw tantrums much she does sometimes. What I do is I put her in time-out. They are not too young! She is 20 months old and has a little sister who is 6 months, she wants to be nice to her and share everything, but there are times that she will drag her around by the foot or try and pull her head off, or just flat out sit on her. Those times I have a special milk stool that I keep way up high on a shelf that she never plays with and is used for the specific reason of "time-out" now she didn't start out staying put. I had to teach her. So for the first few times that I had her in time out I would watch her and everytime she got up i would put her back down. And we would do that until the time-out time was up. After a while she finally got the idea.

Make sure he's not in harms way and walk away. If you give in to him he will think that's it's an effective form of communication that he can get away with. Once he calms down then respond to him.

Hi,

My son just went thru this as well, per his doc, I ignored him most of the time other times I laughed at what he did. His doc said that they really can't hurt themselves. Once my son realized I wasnt gonna pick him up or give him his way it has gotten alot better.

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when my kids throw tantums at home, I just walk away. Me talking to them and standing around makes them scream more. Is there a certain time he hits and throws? I tell my 17 month old that it isn't nice. sometimes she is just hungry or tired.
Sorry I wasn't much help

With both of my children, 5 & 7, I do not respond to negative behavior. I walk away on a tantrum or if it's a situation where I need to stay, then they have to go somewhere else (their room) and come back when they've calmed down and then we'll talk about it. I don't even give an angry response, I maintain an even tone.
In public, no way, if they don't get it together, we are leaving. And say "when you're ready to calm down we can go, if you can hold it together we can stay, your choice". And I am firm and don't back down. If the crying gets louder or they get worse, I'll just start walking, "Come on, we're done".
Now they know this and usually we can nip a tantrum in the bud before it goes out of hand. Then we can talk about whatever their issue is and have it solved much better

Pay attention to when and where he is throwing tantrums, he may be hungry, tired or overstimulated. Tantrums are normal at this age, but you can do things to prevent them. There are lots of great books on toddler behavior, I love What to Expect: the Toddler Years (The same authors of What to Expect When You're Expecting). I refer to it all the time.(My sons are 2 and 5). Now that your son is a toddler, there's a whole new set of issues to deal with. As parents we have to learn new stuff constantly!

As for disciplining him, I'd say no, he's too young to understand what he's doing. All he knows is that things are out of his control and he doesn't like it. He still can't communicate well verbally, so screaming is the next best thing. Everyone says to ignore tantrums. Just don't let him hurt himself or others. You may have to try to hold him. But if he kicks and squirms, let him go, and try to find him a safe spot, away from others. When he's done, talk to him quietly, and give him lots of love. Try to get him to communicate with you, so you can learn what set him off.
Good luck!

Try redirecting his attention when he does that

regarding tantrums, i try to just let the "storm" pass. it's like trying to yell over jet noise. my son throws fits over anything from getting into the carseat to having his juice set up a particular way, and he's only 22 months old. when the energy's up just step back for a second, it usually doesn't take long until it starts to subside, and try to get his attention after it peaks. if it's a tantrum over something tangible he wants, try diversionary tactics, like interesting him in something else. "no" works, but not when he's consumed by a fit. i guess my best advice is to wait until the tantrum peaks and remain calm through it rather than get frustrated, it makes it easier to respond to his tantrum when he's ready to respond to your parenting :)