Hi Erica, I have been in the same boat. Only my "adoptive" teenager was not pregnant, they were recovering drug addicts. Yes,there was more than 1 in our lives. I am like you, I want tohelpall I can to give these teens a shot at life and not fall through the system. Teens flock to me like seagulls. Of course I have teenage girls, but I am the cool mom because I hangout with mykids and their friends some. That way, I keep my kids out of serious trouble. Anyway, when I took in a kid, I always gave the rules. I am always honest and encourage conversation. (kids tend to tellme their woes) I try to tackle each problem with them as a learning experience. I matter of factly tell them I am here to help[you, but there are rules. This is where you should let them know what is expected of them. Cleanliness and drug free is a must! Of course, I was used, and I did not get through to all of the kids thatstayed with me. But.... They all appreciated what my family did and I tolerated no disrespect. They also have the lessons that I taught them. Of course they will slipand fall, but you have to know that you did your best and it will always be with them. It is hard! It takes a special person to mentor a child in trouble. I commend you for doing that. Just lay down the law and encourage conversation and advice like you would your own child. All she needs is unconditional love, which is what you are providing. Feel free to email me or write me back if you need any help. ____@____.com
Good luck, D.
