Hi J.
An Adult to talk to. I am an older mother. What was I thinking??? I am 46 years old. I work six days a week. I can't afford to make myself pretty right now. Hair dye etc.
You made the first step. You noticed how you feel and have decided to change. Can you run away for a day to decide your goals? I cannot afford a life coach but they seem to have great advice.
I have a small trampoline. Every morning at 6 am I run while watching the news for 20 minutes. I hate exercising. It works for me I feel better and have more energy.
Make-up I love Walgreens products. I cannot think of the name brand of the make-up foundation I bought. It has Linen in the product. It make me look great. There is an on line company Libre that has great skin care products. Cleansing wash, astregnant and moisturizer. I never looked younger or felt better.
I feel like a troal. I just got divorced after living appart for four years. I do not want to date yet. I had a bad health scare. I decided that I am important now. I changed by adding exercise. I have celebrated this month about doctors giving me good news so I gained a little weight back. I an starting back on my healthy diet. It is more restrictive than most diets. Mine is for health issues. No wheat containing products, no chicken, fish, pork, beef, fruit and veggies for me. If you change your diet I suggest starting with water. Then add other fruits and veggies. I deny myself good food so my son can eat the food. I have stopped that.
Go to the health food store and look for books. There great self help books at the library or book store. There is great stuff on line.
Pick a spoil me item when you reach a goal. Example I want to lose 5 pounds of water weight. I want to gain 10 pounds of muscle. I want to drink one gallon of water a day. Pick something and reward yourself at the end of your goal.
Your husband my be tired also. He may still see the girl he married. I think a lot of us never see how much our husbands really love us. My girlfriend cannot see how much her husband loves her I can. Can someone watch the kids while you date each other again. As you already are aware marry and family are a lot of work.
I am there also you have a friend and you are not alone. Good Luck!!