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I'm so sorry K.. I would wait too, if I were you. Unless you can't stand waiting. Just know that many, many women have miscarriages and then have healthy babies.

Just wait a few weeks. An ultrasound can't pick up the heartbeat until around 7 weeks. There is no need to rush in and do a DNC.

In the meantime, progesterone maintains the pregnancy.
Estrogen dominance can compete with progesterone and bring those levels down. Keep your estrogen level down and progesterone levels up by drastically reducing corn/peanut, stopping all SOY, (look on the food labels for any word with soy in it, and also teqturized vegetable protien). Soy and corn are in 80% of processed foods. Chlorine is estrogenic. Stop chlorine in tap water by filling a large picture of water and letting it sit on the counter for 24 hours. The chlorine will dissipate. Parabens in lotions are estrogenic. So is BHT preserative in cereals.
Stopping all commercially made oils like corn oil, canola oil, vegetable oil, margarine, cottonseed oil/olestra (in microwave popcorn) etc,will help. They have propylgallate preservative in them which is a xenoestrogen AND they block the thyroid hormone, increasing estrgen and decresing progesterone. Switching to raw virgin coconut oil, butter and olive oil will give your body the building blocks to create progesterone.
Other anti progesterone foods and oils: pomegranite,coffee,clover,alfalfa,sunflower,safflower,licorice,hops,chamomile,nutmeg,thyme,oregano,lavender and tee tree oils.
http://www.coconutdiet.com/thyroid_health.htm
http://www.minntaccdp.com/lou/5preg.html

K.,

I am so sorry you are going through this. Dr's and ultrasound don't know everything, if you don't know how far along you are, why not wait a bit and see what happens? If you are going to miscarry there is nothing you can do about it, but for now you can love this baby regardless of carrying full term or miscarrying. We are mothers from the moment we find out we are expecting.

We had two boys and then a twin miscarriage at 4 1/2 months and then went on to have a daughter. I had some bleeding with her at 11 weeks and was told there was no heartbeat with a doppler. We were in Canada at the time and they suggested a D&C. We left the hospital against medical advice and drove 12 hours straight to our dr. in the States and had an ultrasound only to find out she was fine.

With the twins, I knew that they were gone, but chose not to have a D&C and to miscarry naturally. It is not a choice for everyone. I needed the time to grieve, say goodbye and prepare myself mentally and physically. It took a few weeks for hormones and my body and for me to emotionally let go enough for my body to release them. I had the miscarriage at home with candles, soft light and lots of love and support. It helped me deal with the loss of our babies and provided some closure.

A few months later we were pregnant with our daughter, who was born at home with our midwife and family.

Right now I would suggest taking excellent care of yourself, surrounding yourself with people who love you and to love this baby regardless of the outcome. No matter what, you two are connected forever and until nature takes it's course one way or the other there isn't anything you can do to change the outcome, nor is there anything you have done to cause this to happen. Mother yourself and reach out to other women who have been through this. There are many, many of us, 25% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. That is one in four pregnancies.

I am sending you lots of love and thinking of you. If you think I can help in anyway, please don't hesitate to contact me.

Love and Healing,
April

K.,

I am so sorry you have to go through this. I would wait a few more weeks, the really would not be able to see the babies heartbeat this early. Normally around 8 weeks is when the heartbeat is detectable by vaginal ultrasound.

I know this because I am going through the same thing you are, I am 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant and am pretty sure that I miscarried. My blood levels are increasing but they couldn't see the sac on the ultrasound. Plus, I went through the same thing back in 07 and both times the doctors told me that you have to wait until 8 weeks to see the heartbeat.

When I was 6 weeks pregnant with my now 2 year old son I had a little spotting and thought I miscarried. I went in and the doctor didn't see a heartbeat either and told me that I miscarried. I waited it out and 2 weeks later went back in and we saw the babies heart beating.

I pray that it is just too early for them to see your babies heartbeat.

K. ~ my heart goes out to you, I am so sorry! I will be praying for you and your family! I cannot imagine what you must be feeling right now. Please know that I will be keeping you in prayer and hoping for a miracle!

It looks like your message got cut off. I'm so sorry. I had a miscarriage. I didn't have a D & C. It all just 'resolved' itself, meaning that the uteris expelled everything on its own, like when you have your period. Afterward I had an ultrasound to confirm that everything had been expelled, and that was that. I think that doctors want to do D & C's because then they can be sure that there is nothing left in the uteris. But I think that that would be such a disturbing experience, I would do it again the way I did. It's very sad and awful, but at least your at home and able to handle it without having the D&C experience.

Again, I'm sorry. Time will help, and you will be able to conceive again. Be nice to yourself and take it easy. THis is hard on your body.

M.

I would wait a few weeks. I am 11 weeks now and at my 6 week they checked the heart beat and it was difficult to find. The Dr. actually had me worried for a minute. Now at 11 weeks that heart beat is very visible and the baby was moving lots, so hang in there.

Sending positive thoughts your way!
A.

First thing know that is nothing you did to make this happen. I have had 3 miscarriages. Two in a row. It is heartbreaking. One pregnancy the fetus never developed. It was just an empty sac. I cried every time and was about to give up. I became pregnant again and was excited but also scared because I could never make it past the 12 week mark. This time I carried full term and have a son.
I wish you the best of luck and it will happen for you. All my miscarriages were determined by ultrasound and hormone levels. I only spotted with one of them. The worst for me was still feeling pregnant with the sickness and soreness and knowing there was not a living baby in me. If you have to do it, for the DNC, it is quick and your body recovers faster than the natural way.
You are not alone, this happens to many women. Just remember that is not something you did. I believe that it happens for a reason and maybe the baby was not healthy enough to continue on with the pregnancy. If you need to chat or vent, just send me a message and I will lend a caring ear.

Low hormone levels in pregnancy linked to hard birth http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/8425901.stm

I am so sorry for you. Give it some thought, repeat the hormone levels and ultrasound, but if you start developing any signs of infection, fever, vomiting, abdominal pain or vaginal bleeding, get yourself to the nearest ER. You don't want to loose your baby, but you also don't want to become septic if the pregnancy is not viable. Good luck my dear and try to stay healthy and positive.

Oh honey, my heart goes out to you. I've been there. Let them check the hormone levels again and do another ultrasound, just to be double-sure. I've had 2 miscarriages. One had minor bleeding that progressed to a full miss. The other one was totally wierd...I got my period and it just kept on, very light, just enough for a pantiliner, for 2 weeks. I went to see why and found out I was pregnant and had miscarried. But I did have 4 full ter mpregnancies and now have 4 adult daughters. Unfortunately, daughter #2 had a miscarriage almost 2 years ago. Daughter #3 had a miss Thanksgiving 2008 and will be 12 weeks pregnant on Christmas Day. Miscarriages hurt deep, but the more you talk to people the more you'll find that there are lots of women who've been just where you are. Women who have has a miss share with others who have had a miss, but they rarely share with others. It's painful, especially at first. I can tell you that time has helped me, that and 4 daughters. My #3 daughter was devastated last year and now in 2 days she'll be at the safe mark and will be able to tell eveeryone the good news. Give your body time to get strong again. Eat well and take multi-vitamins. Then when your body has a a rest and is strong again, try again. I send you a hug. And don't blame yourself for this. Docotors will tell you that they're at a loss for why most miscarriages happen. And if you believe in God, then know that He has a new little angel in heaven keeping Him company.

When I was pregnant with my daughter last year, I went in because I was spotting and they couldn't find a heartbeat at 6 wks either and suggested a d.n.c. my husband and I wanted to allow it to happen on its own if that was the case and after going back in 2 weeks later while still spotting saw her heartbeat! She's a big healthy girl now- I'm so glad we waited and didn't listen! Our prayers and hopes are with you as you wait!!

Hi K.,

I'm sorry to hear that. I went through the same thing. I had an empty sac and had to get the D&C done. Looking at the bright side, my brother who is a doctor told me that an empty sac is pretty common and it will not effect your next pregnancy at all.

I got pregnant about 4 months after the D&C surgery and what's more, mu period is never regular. We feel blessed with our 1 year old daughter.

It's not easy but you are not alone. Good luck!

It doesn't sound good - but you never know it is kinda early.
I've had 7 pregnancies and have 2 kids. If it is a miscarriage - it's not your fault it's just Nature correcting a mistake. I've been treated differently for each miscarriage and a D&C is the easiest way to go for the physical symptoms.
Don't give up - this is perhaps the worst time of year for a miscarriage with all the Christmas carols about babies in mangers. If this pregnancy doesn't work out you can try again soon.
Hang in there & feel free to contact me if you need to vent.

A.