Miscarriage... When Will It Happen??

They told my sister the same thing when she was 5 weeks. She waited as well and they found teh heart beat the next time she went for teh ultra sound. Good Luck!!

I had two early miscarriages before having my daughter. The first was a "missed miscarriage" of a "blighted ovum" where there was a sac but nothing else detected on US at about 7 weeks. I elected to wait to see if my body would process this on its own, since I already had been bleeding. I waited almost three months and it never completed. I finally elected to have the D&C because I wasn't feeling great and had terrible acne from the hormone changes.

The D&C wasn't pleasant but it was over fast and my body was back to normal quickly. My second miscarriage was at about 9 weeks and I started bleeding and it completed within a couple of days. I felt fine after and needed no treatment.

Oh, I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. My heart breaks for you.
The pregnancy symptoms are from elevated hormones still circulating in your body and my persist for days to weeks. Sometimes as the hormone levels (particularly hcg that increases with growth and development of baby) are dropping with a miscarriage, the symptoms will fade or lessen slightly. As for waiting for nature to take it's course, it can often take up to 3-4 weeks before bleeding and evacuation of the uterus to begin. I understand your hesitancy for a D & C as it is surgery with risks of it's own. Explore your options carefully and don't let anyone pressure you to do anything with which you do not feel comfortable. A friend of mine miscarried 3 weeks after finding out her 8 week fetus was no longer living. It was tough 3 weeks emotionally, but the miscarriage was able to occur in the privacy of her home, which was what she preferred. Thankfully her bleeding was in normal limits so she never had to go to the ER. Hope this helps. Again, I'm so very sorry. Nurse Midwife Mom

Everone is different. I think I went a couple of weeks. In fact as long as your body shows no signs of stress or infection it is better to go naturally rather than to do the D&C. I would want a second check before I allowed anything. There have been times when the doctors were wrong.

My first, third, fifth and sixth pregnancies ended in miscarriages and they were all different.

My first I was told I was 12 weeks along, but then at the ultrasound the baby only measured 9 weeks and had no heartbeat. I had all my pregnancy symptoms continue until I finally miscarried a month after that ultrasound. I too, would NOT do a D&C because I couldn't bear not knowing if they just had "missed" something. The miscarriage was horrible and I ended up in the ER after passing out in the bathroom and had a D&C the next morning.

My third and fifth I was only about 6 weeks along and I started bleeding and knew what was happening. These miscarriages I did at home and Motrin got me through the pain just fine, they were like very heavy periods.

My sixth pregnancy was going along fine and great with all pregnancy symptoms present, we had a healthy heartbeat on the ultrasound and a due date on the calendar. At ten weeks along I suddenly stopped feeling sick, and then within a few days I wasn't super tired anymore either. Went in for a scheduled check up at 12 weeks and they couldn't find a heartbeat. Another ultrasound and a tearful visit in the doctor's office and we scheduled a D&C for the following week. I started bleeding the morning of the D&C.

So the answer is, you may not start bleeding for a full month, or it may happen tomorrow. It may be just like a heavy period, or it may feel like active labor.

The hardest part of my last miscarriage was that it was a pleasant surprize (like yours), but my husband and I agree that overall we are not ready to add to our family. After my first two miscarriages I had live healthy babies about a year later, but after my last I don't have anything to fill the void. We know this is the right decision for our family, but it makes the grief process drag out for me. I hope you will find strength knowing that there are lots of us out here pulling for you and your family and find peace with the children you have. And who knows, maybe you will decide to add one more?

I had several miscarriages and sometimes it would take up to two to four weeks if I just left things alone...

You are measuring so close...mine were always weeks behind in measurement and there was no heartbeat.

I am praying they just missed the heartbeat...I am glad you are waiting for another U/S. If you do need a D&C and you have questions you can message me...I have had three.

Sending you a big hug!!

I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks, still thought I was pregnant. I never had any spotting or cramping; had to have the D&C. My prayers are with you. So sorry!

I had a small (and I mean very small) amount of blood, but since it was my first pregnancy I was very concerned, so I went in for a US. I was 10 weeks, but the egg sacs only measured 7 weeks, no heartbeat. I went ahead and did the D&C that day. I knew I wanted to try again as soon as possible, so I didn't want to wait for my body to figure it out.

I was much further along than you - 22 weeks...I had had an ultrasound 2 weeks prior and everything was fine. Two weeks later? No movement - called and got an appointment - started bleeding right away...cramping/contractions...

I hope they just missed it...until Tuesday - just wait and see - don't stress...I know, easier said than done...I had a dead baby in my uterus for 48 hours (13 weeks pregnant) until the DNC could be done and in that 48 hours - nothing happened.

God Bless you..I hope everything turns out fine!

First let me say how sorry I am that you are going through this.
When you went to the doctor did they check your HCG levels? If so, were they declining? Also, was this a regular ultrasound or a vaginal ultrasound? It just seems kind of off to me that they would jump right at scheduling a D&C if they haven't done these tests.
I'm like you and I wanted to be sure. (Well, to be really honest I didn't want to believe it even when I was sure.) I went home and waited for nature to take it's course. It was incomplete, so then I had to have the D&C anyway and by that point I was ready.
It is different for everyone, so the time frame is up to your body. Allow yourself the time you need. As long as you aren't in pain or showing signs of infection it can be your call.
I will be praying for you to receive good news at your appointment, and if that isn't the plan God has in mind, I will pray for comfort and strength for you.
When all of the physical stuff is over, whether it turns out positively or not, get support from you husband and loved ones. You have already been through a very stressful time. Allow yourself to feel however you feel. It is okay.
Good luck and please keep us posted.

in my.case I had spotting @ 7 1/2 weeks they did an ultra sound. Said baby measured 5 weeks. I did not feel pregnant.
They also sent me to the hospital for blood test to check horomone levels.
Did they do it for you? My blood tests showed progesterone low. My miscarriage started happening a week later. I'm so sorry, I hope they are wrong!! Praying for you!

I lost a heartbeat with my first and never had the miscarriage. They had to remove the fetus with a D&C. Sometimes you will not spontaneously lose the baby. It was called by the horrible named of "missed abortion" on the hospital paperwork. Can't hurt to wait for a 2nd ultra sound, but don't wait too long since I believe it can affect your health in some way. My ObGyn was immediately concerned and scheduled my D&C for the earliest slot the next morning after I found out. After that I had 2 healthy girls. Even though I was only 3 months pregnant at the time I grieved for a long time. Allow yourself to acknowledge that you lost a child if you feel sad. (((hugs)))

When my baby died I also wanted to wait. We did an ultrasound in a week with the same results. I was 13 weeks exactly and measuring 12 weeks 6 days. They told me the baby had likely just died in the last 24 hours. It took 2 weeks for my body to catch up. However, I did not have any symptoms during the 2 weeks. I had been having horrible headaches and I had grown extremely fast so that I looked about 5 months pregnant when I was only 13 weeks. The last night before my doctors appointment I was having a horrible headache and couldn't move I was so bad. Then the headache just stopped. I never had another headache after that. The miscarriage happened at what would have been 15 weeks.

I really made myself crazy begging God to let me keep that baby. I don't want to feed into any false hopes. But I will pray for you.

For my sister, it never happened. With each of her miscarriages (5 of them), she had to have D&C's. They always waited to let it happen, but it simply never did. She always felt nauseous still up to 4-6 weeks after the baby had already been lost.

8 weeks is so early. I think you're doing the right thing by waiting, to be 100% sure the pregnancy is not viable. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this stress.

I would wait it out. I heard of this before and the baby was fine. I hope your is to. My daughter had a very very low heart beat sometimes it was hard to locate. Wait.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my first at 12 weeks the same way..no heartbeat found, but I was measuring 12 weeks. My OB said it had just happened in the previous couple of days or so. My OB went through the options for me, but she strongly recommended a D&C, because due to the size of the baby, if I waited it out at home, it would have been a very difficult and risky miscarriage. She said if I did wait it out, it could be weeks before my body actually miscarried. I had no signs of miscarriage other than the heartbeat not being found..which was very clear on the u/s. My husband and I didn't want to wait it out (emotionally I don't think I could have), so I elected for the D&C the next morning.

It does take time. Your body still has all the hormones in it from the pregnancy. When I had one from a fall I didn't realize I was actually pregnant. I had milk come in almost to the day of what my due date would have been. I still had to go in and have a D&C. It was pretty hard having to do all the breast milk stuff along with everything else.

I think you have time to wait until you are ready to do everything needed.

It took about 4wks after my little died for me to have my miscarriage. I thought I was about 11wks when I started to spot. When we went to the doctor the baby was measuring a little over 6 wks. I can understand why some women choose to have the D&C, but I allowed things to happen naturally and wouldn't choose differently today. I'll pray you're little one is fine and that they just couldn't find the heartbeat, but if that isn't the case know that I am so sorry for this heartache. The death of a child, no matter how young is difficult. At least it was for me. Best wishes...

I had a very similar situation as well. I went in for my normal 12 week ultrasound and they couldn't find a heartbeat. The baby measured 9 weeks 3 days. I felt exactly the same as I had all along, nausea included. They set up a D&C for the following morning and I opted to proceed with their plan. I couldn't bear the thought of miscarrying at home. It was our first pregnancy. *sigh*
I know this is hard. Hugs and prayers being sent your way!

I found out at 8 weeks that my first pregnancy was going to be a miscarriage. There was just a faint heartbeat. After an US they did say that the pregnancy was not viable. I opted for nature to take its course like you. I ended up miscarrying at 11 weeks. It was a long three weeks. But, I purposely did not get a D/C because it was my first pregnancy and my OB said that it would take longer to get pregnant again if I had a D/C. She always left the option open even when I called her and told her it I had started to bleed/cramp at home. Make sure you ask for something to help with the cramps when it starts. It was quite painful for me. They ended up calling in Vicodan and told me to use a heating pad. Good Luck and I hope your have an answer soon.

i had an u/s at 8 or 9 weeks and everything was fine, at 12 weeks they did one for fun, and there was no heartbeat, it measured the right a mount so I uess it happened a few days prior, i had to get the d&c I waited a week and it never happened

Sending prayers your way that the heart beat was just difficult to find! I think it was a good decision to wait, I would have! It's so early. I misscarried before I knew I was pregnant, which made it slightly easier for me. Please let us know what happens. We are here for you!