Have You Ever Felt like a Big Jerk of a Mom?

Well lets see. My son missed the 1st day of school when he was in 1st grade, because I some how confused the dates. Even that spring if he was having a hard time understanding a new concept thet was being taught he would say he can't get it right because they must have taught it on the 1st day. I also forgot about a 1/2 day so when the bus came, no one was home and he had to ride the whole route and get dropped back at school. That was my worst moment, but I felt a little better when I got to the school to pick him up and there were 7 other children, whose parents forgot them too. As far as food screw ups, i one time got him a chocolate milk shake as a special treat for being such a good boy, I forgot about his reaction to large quantities of dairy, he threw it up all over my back seat. So see we all make mistakes and some are worse then others. We are only human and missing a meal is not the end of the world.

There's nothing wrong with a bowl of cereal or scrambled eggs for supper. A friend over till 8pm on a school night seems kind of late to me, and my son would never invite anyone over without clearing it with me first.
Some days are just more overwhelming than others.
It comes with the territory.

We all have these..putting the baby down for a nap and realizing that I hadn't changed her! Putting the toddler down for a nap without feeding him, knowing that he needed to go to the toilet (potty training), and losing track of time, etc., etc.

I now keep some kid cliff bars and other snacks in the car. She won't be scarred for life. It was just an off day, and means nothing about you as a mother.

if you have already been a mom for over 7 years and this is your worst offense, you deserve an award. cheerios for dinner, everyone!

I have one of these moments at least once a week! :P

Oh yes, sometimes in my house if you don't tell me you are hungry I forget. You are so busy with other things it slips your mind. Don't worry about it, it sounds like you are going to make up for your slight oversight tonight. Have a great dinner.

A couple of months ago, I was getting ready to go grocery shopping. It was about 12-12:30, I had paid bills that morning, made a grocery list, figured out what to cook that week for dinner, filled the sippy cup, etc, etc....slipped on my flip-flops, walked the kiddo (she's 3) out to the truck, she climbed in and as I was buckling her carseat straps......O-M-G !!!!!! SHE'S STILL IN HER PJ'S!!!!!!

Yes....I've had moments like that..... :)

Hmmm, ALL THE TIME! My daughter just started preschool and I've already forgotten to pick her up - TWICE. The thing I have realized is that as long as you don't let on that it's a big deal, they don't worry about it. Obviously if it's something you need to apologize for you should, but otherwise, it just stresses them out.

Sometimes, we have crackers and a piece f cheese or popcorn for dinner, or I don't finish dinner until almost 8pm... there are those days when you are just so busy running around and get home late, that everyone just forgets.

Yes, Yes, oh honey we all get so busy and when the kids do not come and tell us they are hungry we go by our hunger and some of us (ME) never get hungry if we are busy running around.

Relax you are a wonderful Mom and if the kids were hungry they will tell you so please do not feel like you are a bad Mom for "Starving Them". It is not like you refused them after they asked.

Hugs

Stop beating yourself up about this! As a mom- we all hold ourselves to a higher standard like we can't make mistakes or have to do everything right. At least thats how I feel sometimes. You are allowed to make mistakes. Your not the only one who has done this! Your not a worthless mom-- you should tell yourself that you are a fabulous mom who made a mistake--its easy to do! Enjoy your kids but stop trying to be perfect!~ Its not possible.

Take care,

Molly

YES it's called too much at one time...For my family the day's are spent doing errands cleaning whatever needs to be done during the day when son comes home from school (4)it's time to get dinner started we eat no later then 6:30 down time or homework showers by 7:30 all 3 kids showered ready for bed teeth brushed,reading a book then in bed by 8 this is Monday - Friday routine I don't work & anything that is planned for during the week after school hrs. I know in advanced now on Fridays we may get to go out to eat or eat @ gma's house then home by 8 by that time the kids are more than ready to go to bed.
There are nites & days were I don't want to cook or I didn't make it to the grocey store to get things so we have to eat something like we would eat for breakfast the kids think it's fun my hubby hates it but o'well..If my neighbor kid comes over to play that's fine but is expected to return home when it's dinner time or shower time.She does eat outside when it's nice with my kids this happens usually on the weekend.
Your not worthless just need to slow down sometimes..My kids eat later lunches when they are with my parents that is how I grew up it didn't hurt me,but when we get home & they want to eat again I get upset becaus they just ate or had way to many snacks at gma's house.BTW I made Taco's last nite with fresh Guacamole & my hubby comlpained about it.In my mind he can starve for a week and fiend for himself LOL....

Oh yes! And let me say that they are MUCH worse than yours!

That sounds about right. At least once (or twice) a month I have one of those days. Give yourself a break...you are probably the only one who even noticed.

I'm sure everyone has done this before. I know I have & I felt like such a heel too! You are in good company. Don't fret about it.

God bless!

Umm motherhood is like a roller coaster and there are plenty of ups and downs but the ride is so much fun.
J.

There are many, many nights when we are sitting down to eat at 9 PM because I lost track of time or the dadgum potatoes won't cook through or the crockpot is taking longer than the recipe said. The Littles (our 3 and 4 yr. olds) will have had a PB&J for dinner because finally they need to eat and our 9 yr old is munching on carrots and ranch dip while we all stand around the crockpot and watch, as if that will somehow hurry things along.

I would love it if it could be perfect all the time. I would love not having peanut butter and jelly while we gather around the crockpot, which happens at least once or twice a month. I love more that my family loves me anyway and what could cause them to be frustrated merely makes them laugh.

You are a great mom who had "snack for dinner" night. It's all good.

L.

I was grocery shopping Sunday at 2pm when it hit me, I forgot to give my son lunch! Needless to say, I cut that shopping trip short and went to get him some food. Opps!

You said they both ate so they are probably ok. We get over busy and make misstakes. You are human, give yourself a break.

I've totally done this before a couple of times - just completely forget to feed my kids a meal and don't realize until they're all grumpy. It's usually when there are lots of distractions. Don't feel badly - we all do it!

Oh yes! And I agree, that on a scale of 1-10 for "badness" yours is about a 2! Obviously, she would have spoken up if she was starving, right? lol

Last night in the tub, my son had his washcloth, asked for a dry O. to wipe off his eyes, then later asked if I could get him the XYZ washcloth and I just called "no!" This morning I realized the XYZ washcloth was flung up and over the top of the tub surround--I just assumed he was trying to accumulate several in the tub--as he has done in the past--which ticks me off b/c I don't think he needs 3-5 washcloths per bath!
I felt like a big jerk of a mom when I realized I wasn't even listening to him. So that O. was in the past 12 hours and there are many, MANY more....

Don't worry about this. We all have crazy days.
One night without a formal dinner won't hurt kids. My son and I often just have something simple...a sandwich or some oatmeal and toast. Some nights we just have fruit and cottage cheese. Sometimes we just don't feel like "dinner" dinner.
I think the most important thing is to help our kids know that things like this aren't the end of the world by showing them it's NOT the end of the world to us.
If we have a meltdown over little things, they will tend to have meltdowns over little things.

You're obviously a great mom, a wonderful and caring friend and neighbor....don't be so hard on yourself. It doesn't sound like your kids were screaming that they were starving or anything. No harm done.

Let it go. Have a great dinner tonight!

Best wishes.

just yesterday I forgot to change my daughters diaper before she had her nap - and when she woke up she had the most horrible rash - and now I feel so bad - that is one of many stupid things I have done!

I think you have to always have a meal planned, not necessarily an elaborate one. Crockpot meals or things you've made/frozen and can reheat are good. I love food too much to ever forget dinner, but that's me. I've forgotten other important things though and felt like a real loser mom. Watch The Middle on Wed. nite sometime. Will make you feel better!

Absolutely...No worries!

lol, i did that last night, we had dinner at 9!........sometimes when i am dieting and busy i just forget

Yep, I bet we've all had these moments!
If not...we're lying! You're a good and all will be fine!!