Has a Sitter Ever Stolen from You?

Dear A. B,

I would scare the heck out of her and tell her to either fess up what she has done. Tell her 2 things. 1 I will call her parents 2. I will call the police and file a police report if she does not come clean. If your son says she goes in your room that's enough evidence that she has done something wrong.

I had a babysitter steal from me who my kid loved. She took a few necklaces of my mother's but the fact I had no proof of the jewelry she took I did not press charges against her. I confornted her and she said she purchased them years ago. I told her she was lieing to me. She moved out and we never heard from her again.

Do you have her parents name and phone #? If you do I would call them. How old is the sitter?

Let her know your son has stated she has been in your room.

Keepme posted.

G. H.

I would call her parents and explain the situation to them (both situations) and see how they react.. If she is not calling you back, it could be because she's nervous as to what your going to say to her...Unfortunately, the money is forever gone but at least you can clear your mind and get it off your chest by telling her parents what happened..
I don't know where you live (I'm in Boynton) but I have an AMAZING, reliable, dependable sitter if your going to look for another one...

We had a babysitter once that never stole anything from us (as far as I knew or noticed anyway) but she was extremely NOSY) I can tell that she had gone through some personal things like bedroom drawers and my desk drawer. We never used her again luckily, but we still felt that she invaded our privacy.

I am so sorry this has happened to you, I know there is probably no way for you to recoup the money or items you have lost, without her admitting to anything but in the future if a "nanny-cam" or something is too expensive make sure to get a copy of your sitter's driver's license or something when you hire her for the first time (It may deter her from any thoughts of trying to steal something if she knows you have some of her personal information) I do babysitting and someone had asked that of me once and I thought it was an excellent idea!) Also if possible, try to lock you bedroom door or any room that may have some valuables in them. Or you can simply state to your babysitter the rooms that she is permitted (or NOT permitted to go in) This should not offend any future babysitter, just tell them you have had a problem before.
There is no reason for them to be anywhere but the common areas of your home unless advised to do so.
Good luck and let us know what happens!

A.,

Unfortunately at this point nothing you say is really going to matter to this girl. She has gotten the money and the pills, she isn't going to return anything. If she hasn't returned any of your phone calls by now she isn't going to. I understand your frustration believe me. I have not had anyone steal from me but I have a very hard time trusting people with my children. I am very fortunate that I have family that I can turn to for babysitting needs. I would suggest talking to friends and finding out if anyone has or knows of anyone that they know that is trustworthy. It is very hard to find someone, I tend to lean toward the older sitters. You will find that the younger group is less trustworthy and you don't know what they might be up to.

I am truly sorry that this has happened to you and I wish you luck in the future.

S.
35 y/o SAHM of 3 boys 13, 5 and soon to be 3

I have had a live-in au pair with AuPairCare and never had any problems. She became part of the family.

Dear A.,

I have not had a babysitter steal from me, but my sitter did take my 3 year old son out without my permission and smoked pot in his presence many years ago. It is very hard to trust people these days especially with your most precious and dear children. I would invest in a nanny cam, that way you can monitor your next sitter and it will help you build trust with her as well as quell any anxiety that you may have from this past experience. It is the only way to know what really goes on once you leave the house.
R.