My three-year-old son was invited to a birthday party of a girl in his preschool class. The girl has a twin brother in a different class, and of course they are doing the party together. My son really likes his friend Sarina, but doesn't reallyknow her brother. Do I have to get each of them a gift? Or should I buy something they should share? I don't want to have to spend extra money if I don't have to.
Thanks. BTW, this party is this weekend, so I need some quick responses. Thanks!
EDIT: the invitation says it's a party for both kids, but I don't want to feel obligated to buy for both.
By a board game or play dough. Then its something they can easily share.
But...I would only feel the need to buy for both if the invite stated a party for x and x. If it just said her name, then I think you are only required to buy for her.
Honestly, when my kids were younger and we had the parties, it did not matter if each got a gift or they got a game to share. They each had their own friends invited. Sometimes the mom got a gift for all and sometimes not. I would do what you can afford. If you feel odd without a gift, get something small for the other child.
Just buy a gift for the girl in your son's class. That would be totally acceptable.
Gift for the child you were invited only. Her brother is having a party of his own at a separate time.
I dont think you should feel obligated and just get his friend a gift, there will be gift for the brother aswell from other people, it wont even be noticed. perhaps a card for brother would be a nice gesture
Did the invite say 'Sarina and John's party'? If so--two gifts, if not--O. gift.
Nope. Just give a gift for the sibling that invited your son. I have twins and I would not expect one child's friend to buy gifts for both. And, as for buying a gift they can share, that isn't such a good idea either. They have to share a LOT of things, and I don't want my boys to have to share toys forever. Give a gift meant for your son's friend.
I always celebrated birthdays with my "irish twin" sister. We are 4 years apart. I never expected a gift from her friends, and she never expected one from mine. It all works out. Don't stress.
Do what you think is best.
If he was invited by one child then I would only buy for the girl. You are not obligated to buy for both if he was only invited by one.
when my twins were in kindergarten (separate classes), I made sure that parents knew that it was perfectly okay to just get one gift for the child that their child knew. So IMO it's ok to just get a gift for the sibling that your child knows.
They are children, give them both a gift. Who cares what the adult filled out, left out or whatever on the invitation.
Name something more precious than seeing a child opening a gift!
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I agree with the other posts. If it is an invite with one name, buy for her. If two names, buy for both. If only her name, but you feel funny about it, do what you can. I was thinking a great gift idea for both would be some of the spring/summer stuff that is just being put out. You could get them each a pail and fill it with summer stuff and a kite.....sidewalk chalk, shovels, bubbles, etc. You could write their names on each bucket in a cute font. Big looking gifts without a big price.
As a Mom of twins I would say buy for the child that invited your son to the party. The other twin will have friends that he invited to the party that will bring gifts for him.
Although it is never inappropriate to give to both twins, I think it is fine to just buy for the child that invited your son. My sister has boy-girl twins. They typically have combined parties and each invites his/her own class. A few people who know both twins buy for both, but most guests only bring one gift.
I agree with Momto2princesses. Unless the invite had both of their names on it, I'd only buy for the girl. But, something for them to share is just as good.
