Hi, my husbands cousin is getting married and wants my daughter to be the flower girl. I had a very small wedding that didn't require a flower girl so I was wondering if I am responsible for paying for the dress? I don't mind but I just wanted to see who is usually responsible for the cost?
yes you will be buying the dress. Hopefully she will let you pick it out or she will pick one that isn't too expensive
Yes, you pay for everything. Dress, hose, shoes, getting her hair done, etc. Just as the bridesmaids pay for their own.
The bride usually picks out the dress but there is no reason you can't let her know how much you can afford.
You are.
Unless by some miracle, the bride tells you straight out that she is providing/buying the dress.... then YOU are. Along with shoes to match.
If cost is an issue for you (not in theory, but with your actual budget) then be up front in your discussion with the bride about this "honor". Some brides have been known to turn into crazy women, who think nothing of telling others to go spend $300 on a dress for a child. Most don't do that, but nobody ever thinks it will happen to them. It does happen. So ask up front how much she expects you to spend on the dress, before you agree... unless money is no object and it wouldn't matter to you if it was $50 or $500.
Unless they offer to pay, you are.
you are responsible. I don't know how old your daughter is or the plan, but if a white dress with color coordinated ribbon would work - you can find lots of white first communion dresses on the clearance racks right now.
If they don't offer--you pay.
Yes, you are, but you also have every right to either pick out the dress yourself or set a budget that you can afford for the bride to shop within. Do not let the bride bully you into spending more then you can afford.
You are responsible for the cost of her dress. Before you agree to have her do it, be sure to have a convo with the cousin to ask what kind of dress they are considering and what the price range will be. If you arent OK with buying the dress, you should decline the invite to have her as the flower girl.
Not sure what the convention is, but we paid for the flower girls dresses, the bridesmaids dresses (purchased) and the groomsmens tuxes, shoes, and the ring bearers tux (rented). Everyone was paying enough just to be there fore us, and gifts too, we didn't want them to shoulder this cost as well.
I bought the flower girl dresses at Target for both girls. Their mother supplied the hose and shoes and headbands.
Best,
F. B.
yes you are responsible for paying for it along with shoes and either doing her hair or having it done. For both weddings my daughter was in, I bought off the rack at David's bridal in either white or cream to coordinate with the bride, but it was not a miniature version of the bride's dress.
Don't know what Miss Manners would say, but the one time my daughter was a flower girl, we paid.
Yes, you pay for the flower girl dress and accessories (hosiery, shoes, jewelry, etc)
I think you are, but I wouldn't spend a fortune. Try to buy a used one online, from a friend or at a consignment store. Send out the word you need one. Or try to borrow one. I had a flower girl in my wedding and I was able to find one to borrow for her. Ask the bride what she has in mind in terms of style, etc. We just paid for having it cleaned after our wedding. That was almost 20 years ago so things may have changed since then, but I wouldn't expect the flower girl's parents to spend a lot on a brand new dress.
I think you should pay, but if there's just one flower girl, and the bride doesn't have her heart set on a specific dress, believe it or not, Target and Walmart have some really cute white special occasion dresses for around $20 (even if there are two girls, they usually have them in all kids' sizes.) We bought two matching flower girl dresses on Target.com and you'd never know they weren't from a bridal shop. They were in the $20 range and everyone thought they were adorable.
Yes, you're responsible for paying for the dress.
I suggest working with the bride on what she'd like. Light in the Box has LOVELY flower girl dresses that you can order to her measurements online. That's were we found the flower girl dress for my wedding.
ETA: Oh, and they've very reasonably priced!
Check this place out
We used them for my wedding for the flower girl dress. Every wedding is different but yeah I would say you are responsible.
Good luck
When my sister got married last year she wanted me to be her maid of honor and my daughter to be her flower girl. I told her that we would love to, but I couldn't afford both dresses. She ended up paying for both without telling me.
Usually you do end up paying for the dress. Don't agree to the flower girl position until you have a conversation with the bride. She needs to know what you can afford. She may have a dress in mind already, or she may let you pick something out with design/color parameters.
I'd say you are, if you accept. However, you can always casually let the cousin know when you are going shopping. She may want to see the dress and my offer to pay.
I think that you should be responsible for the cost since she'll be keeping it and able to wear it to other things. About any fancy little dress can be worn to church, programs, out to special time with mom or dad/date night with parent.
I'd prefer to speak to the bride now though so you can get an idea of her taste. If she is extravagant you may find she's picked a $500 dress but if she's a normal sort of person you could probably have some input towards the cost.
We had some amazing formal gowns for little girls in our store a while back. One of them was "THE perfect flower girl dress". It was made by Lida.
#811, I think it's the 6th one on this page.
http://www.lidachildren.com/#/flower-girls
The bride can select this white dress and then choose the sash and bow color. The bows have snaps so they can be changed out! What a cool idea.
I loved having this dress. We got it in with a red sash and bows. I made purple bows and a sash for my other granddaughter to wear it in a wedding when my older girl outgrew it. It's still beautiful and gone through a total of 4 girls so far.
We have had many of the Lida dresses in our store and I think I have 4 of them hanging in my closet for my granddaughter. She wears them to daddy daughter dances and church. She had a school dance this past winter and did one pageant. She loves wearing them.
The most expensive one we had in the store was $300 but most were prices for $100 (ish) or less.
Having the bride's input now, so you can plan ahead and budget, is so much easier on you than just finding out a few weeks before the wedding that you have to buy something totally inappropriate for your ability to buy.
Hi,
Usually the bride pays for all of her attendants dresses. However, sometimes they will tell the parent of the flower girl, to just wear a pretty dress that she may already have, that has the colors for the wedding.
When I got married the 1st time, 2 of my 3 sisters was in the wedding & my niece was the flower girl. We paid for all of the attendants dresses, including the flower girls. Well, more like my parents did.
Best of luck,
C.
Yes, you pay for the dress. Hopefully, it will be the sort of flower girl dress that your daughter can wear to church or other such places the rest of the summer.
