L.; yes i understand, i did this with my kids, except i started to count, and when i got to a certain number like 3 they would have to give it to me or else, but then i was thinking like you , why shouldnt they listen the first time, and i agree with you , but my kids are now 21,17, 15, and i cant rememeber what i did, to get them to listen the first time, i think i had to correct me and not them, by saying please give it to me, or this will happen, and then i waited with my hand out if they did not give it to me and or run away, or a small amount of time went i would go get the item, and then discipline them and i would follow through on my threat, cause a threat does no good if you dont follow through, so even on supernanny they get one warning then put on the naughty chair for a time out equal to their age, 2 year old 2 minutes, and then in order to get off the chair, she would say mommy put you in the naughty chair cause you ....... now say your sorry, and the kids would , but be consistant, if you say something make it happen, if you have a child who begs for things, and you say no, no, no, no, and eventually their begging makes you change it to a yes, then you are not being consistant, once your kids know you mean what you say its easier, if your gonna change your no to a yes, then why not just say yes the first time? this eliminates alot of fuss and stress on your part as well, so continue to be consistant, if they dont listen the first time its ok to put them in time out for reason of not listening, especially stop and dont move voice, this can eventually save their lives, mommy put you in the naughty chair cause you did not stop when i yelled , when you dont stop something bad could happen, like .... now say your sorry, and they will and eventually through consistancy they will learn you mean business, it really helps, it has helped me raise my 3 boys, yet now i need to figure out how to do it as they are teens, since they exercise their power a bit more, ahahahaha like ok time to turn off the computer has become the same struggle, they dont listen, but i think for every time i have to say it, will be the amount of time deducted from the next computer use, so i need to work on me too, and be consistant with my now teens, haahahah so hang in there and it will work, i did not have trouble with my boys when younger in this matter, so thanks through me talking to you ive fixed me and my situation with teens, ahahahahah have a great day and keep being that good mom you are, D. s