J.G.
I can see why you would still be angry with him for abandoning you when you needed him. And why deep down inside you – you are afraid he will do it again to your little girl, but there has to be something good within him that you loved at one time. You have a little girl that you love and would do anything for… maybe he is truly regretting the lost time too. Sometimes it takes men longer to see what they have or are missing out on in life and most of the time it takes a man longer to admit he did something wrong that he regrets.
I do agree with a few of the post that he should be willing to take it slow… with the warm weather coming here soon – maybe you could meet him at a park for them to play a little together. That way you are still able to keep an eye on her while she is playing with him and it give them both a little time to get to know each other before he just “takes” her for a day or weekend. In the long run – her knowing her dad will help her out more.
It seem like he is trying to fix his mistakes… I know he isn’t able to take back what he has done in the past. But if he has truly learned from his mistakes – try not to hold it against him to much, but I can understand be careful and not just jump into everything. It did take the two of you to make the sweet little girl you love so much… I know it would tear me up to see my kids without their dad. Fathers are capable of loving their kids as much as Mothers do… I do hope you are willing to put your hurt and anger aside and give him a chance to make up a little of the lost time with your daughter and in turn help you out by being there and taking some of the financial burden off of your shoulders – which seems to be something else you are angry at him for not doing.
I do apologies if I have upset you with my views… I know they are different then most people, but I do feel deep within me that both parents should have some right to there little ones if they want it. I have a sister who doesn’t know her real dad, my dad adopted her when she was just a few years old… she knows she has 3 other younger brothers and sisters, but hasn’t been able to meet them. I have seen her pain from not knowing them or her dad. I don’t wish that on any child… I guess our views come from our past and what we have experienced and seen. I do wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide to do!!!