Guilt is a useful emotion... It tells you what you WANT.
So lets look at what you want.
1) Your family's needs to be met. That has to be number 1. Be ause if you lost your family, that's a whole new kind of guilt. So lets be proactive here, and place your children & family first.
- Quite frankly, it sounds as if they aren't right now. Not just your family's wants... But your NEEDS are going unmet. There's not enough money for your bills, much less providing for their future.
2) Your nieces/nephews needs to be met.
3) Your aunt & uncles needs to be met.
What, here, do you actually have control over?
#1.
That's the only one you CAN do (yes, if you were a billionaire, you could meet everyone's needs & wants... Which is actually a useful thing to know, Im not actually being sarcastic, here, but honest.)
What you WANT to do is numbers 1-3.
You've sacrificed #1, in order to try and help with 2&3.
To no avail.
Which gives you some options, based on more knowledge.
1) Allowing them to stay with you will NOT help them. For some it would. For them, it isn't.
2) You can allow SOME of them to stay with you (adults or kids) while the others live elsewhere, which would alleviate some of the burden. Sometimes that's what's really needed. Grandparents take the kids, or cousins, or godparents, etc... While the parents live elsewhere for a few months getting 2 jobs each & saving. Other times in reverse... That's how one becomes a "kinship provider"... As the parents ditch their kids and circle the drain. No knowing which would happen. Depends on the parents. You can't control the parents to force them into good decisions. You can only (as with allowing the family to stay with you) give them a hand. If they ignore the hand, that's not on you.
3) You can do their research for them. Assistance programs, housing programs, med programs, school programs. Gather together everything you can find, and present them with a plan.
4) ?
There is quite literally, nothing else you can do.
You can't live their lives for them.
You can't make their choice for them.
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You feel guilt because you WANT to be able to do thing you CAN'T do.
Once you've done everything you can do (not should do, big difference)... Will you still feel guilty?
Yup.
Because you have a good heart.
You want what's best.
Even though you can't do it.
Are there some "more" things you CAN do?
Yep.
- Let them stay forever
- Keep the kids or Keep the adults
- Research
SHOULD you?
No.
Just because you can, doesn't mean you should.
Do what is RIGHT.
Which is whatever you can live with / look in the mirror every morning and be okay with.
- Staying forever = losing your own family ... Not likely mirror-worthy.
- Keeping kids/adults = ?
- Research = ?