Explaining Vasectomy to Children

Why not just say that dad isn't feeling up to par so we are going to give him a day of rest. As for the ice pack, a blanket over his lap should make that one less obvious.

Say, "Daddy doesn't feel good today"?? They really don't have to know everything, if you don't want them to. Not everything is their business. Not that it's anything to hide, it's just that not everything needs to be shared.

Daddy can ice subtly, and they probably won't pay it that much attention. I don't think my kids noticed when my husband had a vasectomy.

Just say that Daddy is hurting "down there" and cannot lift or play right now because he needs to heal. They need not know anything else.

You know....people have hernia operations in just about the same spot. My son's friend had to lay around with ice on his groin after getting kicked in the nuts during a soccer game in elementary school.
All you have to do is say that dad has an injury, he needs an ice pack and you have to be careful with him for a couple of days.
At this age, I don't think they really care to know much more than that.
Dad has a whoopsie.
No different than an ankle or a wrist when you think about it in kid terms.

Best wishes.

Definitely a case of the less, the better. "Dad is resting, he was at the doctors, easy with Dad..." etc. That's it. No reference to or explanation about "vasectomy."

My husband had a vasectomy after our fourth child. They were 9, 8, 6 and 2 at the time. Nothing that went on with my husband after the V led me to need to explain anything to them. He had it done late one afternoon and was up and at it the next day. He just slept a little later than normal. There is no need to explain the totality of a V to your children. Hope your hubby recovers as well and as quickly as mine did.

I don't think you need to explain what a vasectomy is or even use that word. Just say that Daddy doesn't feel well and is hurting and just needs to rest. I had a double mastectomy in January and had my ovaries removed a couple of months ago and all we told my kids was that I had "boo boo's" and couldn't pick them up. Granted, my kids are 4 and 2, but the same logic could apply. Just tell them he needs to rest and he'll be better in a couple of days.

It's just a day or two, so you could tell your kids ANYTHING. Just tell them he is not feeling well, or had to have a mole removed or something. That should be an easy one, since his recovery is so short.

I would just say that daddy is having a problem, the doctor is going to fix it. He will be on the couch for a few days and won't be able to play like normal. Leave it at that. If they ask what is his problem, just say its private and he doesn't want to talk about it. I would not tell them what he is having done---

M

My husband just had one about a month or two ago. Our kids are younger (5,3 & 4 months) so the exlpanation was a lot simpler for us. We just told them that he had surgery on his "pee pee area" and that it was sore. He needed to rest and couldn't pick them up or wrestle with them for a few D.. He hung out on the couch & iced himself with them around but that was more so they would understand that he was hurting & be reminded that they should be gentle with him. The understanding at 8 & 10 is a lot better than 5 & 3 so more of an explanation may be warranted. Hope you find what works! Many blessings :-)

They are old enough to understand he is having some surgery done to his private area. That's all that needs to be said if you don't want to take this opportunity to explain what the procedure is about.

In this 'day and age' kids know so much more than we give them credit for, so you should check what they already know - have they overheard you? Many 'experts' seem to think around 8 you should have sex talks, so this is in that realm.

they are too young for that much detail. just tell them daddy doesnt feel good down there but i would never expain a vasectomy to a 10 yr old to much unecessary detail and who wants to hear about thier dad getting his nuts cut sorry to be so graphic but think about it.

You dont have to tell them anything. Chances are dad wont be laying around all that much. Mine was fine after his. Just tell them dad is not feeling good and let him lay in bed and watch tv uninterrupted. I definitely would not do the whole vasectomy lesson with them.....All he has to do is say he has an upset stomach or headache or the like. The kids will never be the wiser.

"dad had to go to the dr. and have a little surgery done. You need to be careful when you play with him! Don't jump!"
My husband will be getting one in the next couple of months and that's all that needs to be said. When they are older they will have figured it out and be mighty happy that you didn't go into all the details.

Dad is sick and has to stay in bed. Simple as that. And/or you can have the kids over to someone else's house during that time so they won't really notice the details of his 'illness'.

well my husband also had a vasectomy after our third child. he was able to work later that day. he was not very sore..but it probably varies per person. i would give as little info as possible ..why do they need to know exactly what he did

wow, my husband did it but our son was 3 and our daughter was newborn so we never thought about it. I guess if he did it today we would just tell the truth, that daddy had surgery so he can't have any more children. or, maybe just say he had surgery that a lot of daddy's get as they get older. Our son would not ask further than that but many are inquisitive. I might not bring up the 'no more children' thing b/c that may lead to "well what does daddy have to do with having children"? question. tell your husband it is an easy surgery...in case he is nervous. :o)

In our family both men went back to work that late afternoon. Why tell them anything? Just say daddy hurt himself and he can stay in his room or be entirely private. Some things children are just to young to need to know.

I wonder how much explaining you really think you need to do. First of all, I would be surprised if your husband would be icing himself in the kids presence. And most men recover without any undue discomfort at all. They rarely take more than a day off work. As far as lifting and inability to play with them, maybe suggest he read them a book or watch a video instead of playing basketball for a day or two.

Just say dad isn't feeling good. No need to go any further. If they happen to ask what's wrong/why isn't dad feeling good I would leave it to a simple upset tummy. That way they'll know better than to jump around and they'll be pretty gentle with him.

I wouldn't go the route about anything "down there" unless you are ready to deal with more questions or have had the beginnings of the "where babies come from" talk lol. When my dad had it done I was probably around 10 or so but I'd known where babies came from since about age 6 so they explained a bit about the surgery to us.

I would have my husband stay in bed and tell the children that he's not feeling well that day and he has to rest. you can let the children come in to see him once or twice while he's not icing himself.