Excessive Fasination with Vagina

My daughter is also 3 1/2 she went through a facination with that as well. It made me feel a little uncomfortable. I would distract her when she would touch herself. It seemed to work because she isnt AS fasincated.

First off,can we remember back to the time when our "girl parts" "who-who" totally fascinated us and was a "thrill" to be touched without consequences???I sure don't,I too am an older mother(39) of a 2 year old girl who is a "freak" about her "girl parts"(that's what we call it)I myself am not a very sexual person,but when uninhibited(right word??)who knows???Guys sure do love there parts,my boys are 19 and 16 and when they were babies would pull and tug all day long....but I understand what you mean it is kinda unnerving with a girl,somewhat "unnatural" I don't know what to call it,but I too get uneasy.I mean my child likes to sit on her rubber duckie in the bath!!!In the end I think it IS just nature ,they know what feels good(not trying to be graphic)and that is the way things are until they know different!I really don't think you have anything to worry about if you're worried about molestation...if she's that open with it,I don't think it's anything more than her "feeling" good.Good Luck,I'm in the same boat,R.

I agree with the others, this is normal. When my daughter does it it bothers my husband more than me, we just tell her not to do it in public. If you make a big deal of it talking about it it will make her do it more. And if you try to stop her, you are setting her up for some issues in the future (I have family member who can attest to this).

Your doctor is right. It's not excessive, it's normal. Sometimes gross, sometimes way inappropriate, but normal. When one of my daughters (I won't say which one) was about that age, I walked in and found her playing with herself on the living room sofa. I said, "What in the heck do you think you're doing?" Her reply: "I'm having a party in my pants!"

As long as they get it out of their systems before they're old enough to go to frat parties, count your blessings. T.

I have three daughters ages 10, 7 & 4 years old, I know how disturbing it seems but it is a phase and it will stop. I have gone through it three times, my second daughter was the worst! Try not to make her feel ashamed and once she stops getting attention for her "behavior" it will phase out.

not much information, but my daughter did this with crayons at the same age, devistated me, but it only lasted about a month. she is now nearly 5 and i can say after that month and the fascination was over.
V~

Hi R.,

Last year my daughter (she was 4 at the time)seemed to be very interested in her vigina area, I was worried that if I made a big deal out of her behavior (touching and showing it to the rest of the family) it would only get worst. So I told her each time to stop and then ignored it. This behavior only lasted a few weeks and then stopped, of course she still shakes her butt at her brother, that may never stop.

Very normal I only see my daughter do it when she is in the bathtub. It does make me a little uncomfortable but the doctor said it is normal. She is just exploring herself it is her vagina so it is hard for me to tell her stop touching yourself (but I do anyway-haha). I don't want her to think there is something to be ashamed of or something wrong with her body.

Hi, I'm sure that was hard to write. My daughter at that age was interested in her "who who" too. It passes quickly, however, it does seem a little strange for her to thinking of objects touching her. Does she attend a daycare or playtime? I know you are a sahm but if you are with other children where they could be playing alone or an older child that loves your daughter, I would check that out. My daughter told me at that age someone had touched her. Children are very innocent and will tell. She doesn't seem upset, so, just check out who has been with her and aroud her recently or from the beginning. Kids are curious and will touch themselves and other children too but it does seem a little too much. Not reacting is the best thing to do. Could she have seen some pornography? Anything on TV? It may be a phase and if she is really, really intersted, it could be the reason, but be vigilent about who she sees and what she sees. Being a mommy is not for the weak. You will get to the bottom, if there is indeed a bottom to be gotten to.
Best of luck w/this

DW

Hi R. ~ Here's a funny story: When my niece turned 2 (maybe 3, she's 30 now, so it was a long time ago), I gave her a stuffed animal. It was a beaver with very soft fur on it (about 18" long, 12" wide and nice and round). She LOVED it! She would sit on it and rock back and forth, rubbing her privates against it. My sister-in-law and I laughed at the irony that it was a BEAVER! It is very normal for toddlers to do this. It gives them pleasure. You are right not to overreact, however, you should let her know not to touch her privates with anything hard, as she might hurt herself.
~K.

Hi R., I now exactly what you are talking about. My daughter is also 3 1/2 years old. She also is fascinated with her who who, and has long conversations about it. It is so embarrasing. She touches it, and talks to it. I just told her she can only do those things in private, and not out in public or in front of company. I think she gets it. It will pass. My boys did the same thing around the same age, and it passed. No worries.

Oh wow I would be totally freaked out. I am sure you have gotten plenty of good responses, but I felt the need to put my 2 cents in.
IF it was my child my first thought would be that someone was abusing her. But as you stated, you are with her most the time. Make sure there is nothing strange going on at daycare, even other children discussing such things w/ each other. Talk w/ the teacher and director. And make sure all relatives that she is with often are safe as well. The talk might also come from something she has seen on t.v. Make sure your husband isnt watching anything inappropriate in her presence. Kids pick up on the slightest thing and can turn it into something huge.
I hope that you can figure out what has triggered this if anything. I do find it a bit on the extreme side of "normal". Best of luck.

hi R.,

i don't have direct experience with this behavior (i only have a son almost 2) however, a friend's daughter (3ish) does has a favorite bunny that she actually sits on and rocks back and forth and up and down. she does this very frequently and then forgets about it for a few days, then starts again. she (the daughter) termed it squishiing the bunny. i know it's not exactly the same, but it does sound similar. just wanted you to know you're not alone. : )
take care,
K.

Hi Ronda.
You know if my daughter starts to do this I am going to tell her that "touching it just will make her want to touch it more with no satisfaction" so it's better to ignore the feeling of needing to touch it. That's my plan right or wrong.

make sure she know it is HER place and not for anybody else! i would also suggest a more mainstream name instead of "who who" we say "hiny" and and call the back their "butt"

Take it easy - this is so normal - you can teach her about what is appropriate ( no screwdrivers! ) and maybe think about not calling it a who who - I think using the term vagina is important, because creating another name for it creates this air of mystery - she is surely picking up on the fact that she is shocking you - let it go and give her some information.