Dry at Night but Still Wants to Wear Pullup!

I watched a 911 nanny (or similar) and she had some 'fairy' take the diapers and replaced it with a small gift.

The child left the 'pull-ups' in a box (I think it was a toy chest) over night with a note and the next morning they were gone and in the place was a small toy. The fairy explain the diapers would go to a baby/toddler who needed them.

I never did this, but thought it was interesting. We have had accidents and sometimes I am tempted to go back to pull-ups at night.

I would take him to the store and show him how much money you pay for pull-ups. I would let him pick out a toy he wants. I would then tell him there is only enough money for one thing...does he want pull-ups or the toy, his choice. (I would only do this if you are certain he will pick the toy).

I'd choose sleep over undies!! :)

he's still such a little fellow. good for him for going so long without an accident, but if the pullups help him feel more secure, i'd roll with 'em a while longer. don't fret, mama, you're almost there!
khairete
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Can you put the underwear under it so he starts to get used to the different feeling?

Also, let him wear it, but make it his responsibility to remember to put it on and actually put it on himself. Even leave the room when he is doing it.

You've pretended you've forgotten, but he asks for it. "Ok honey, you can wear your pull-up. But you put it on. Here it is. I'll be right back to tuck you in." Then give him a few minutes alone with it. He may love the new responsibility (which is a good thing) or he may find it's more work than he wants.

I just don't think there's any evidence at all to suggest that staying dry at night is a factor of "training" vs. out-and-out physiological development. So I complete disagree that financial considerations or "I'm proud of you" should have any bearing on it. I'm not proud of my kid when he doesn't get strep throat or when he avoids getting a headache or when he grows 4 inches, am I? Nighttime dryness is entirely developmental - when the kid is asleep, he's not responsible for knowing that his bladder is full. Period. My son had nocturnal enuresis (nighttime bedwetting) until he was about 11 - an unbelievable number of kids have this. So putting something that's out of their control and implying that it is up to them to fix can be really problematic. The other 2 kids are the same age or older, and they aren't dry at night. So why have higher expectations of your son (especially when wet-at-night is a bigger problem for boys)?

If he were wasting the pull-ups through play, or by intentionally wetting during the day, that would be something else again. That would be intentionally wasteful and of course you shouldn't support that. Wearing them over again is fine. When he's ready, he will let you know. I think you really should find another way to save money. We all have budgets and things can be really tight, but I would buy clothes at the consignment/resale shop and do hand-me-downs or exchanges with friends. I wouldn't let the kids waste food and I wouldn't buy things like those snack-packs (I'd make my own) or juice boxes (use a stainless steel bottle they can re-use). And absolutely no money spent on bottled water!

But making nighttime dryness a battleground can actually cause way more problems down the line. When you think about it, washing sheets and pajamas uses up water, detergent, electricity and it also wears out the fabric - so it's not really less expensive than pull-ups. I honestly don't feel this is a place to draw a line in the sand.

Unless you can't afford it, let him wear the pullup. It will probably only be a few months. In my opinion, anything that saves mom time and hassle is a good thing. Currently he likes a pullup. Why not.

I'd definitely let him take the lead on this.
Don't make a battle where there is none!

Let him be. He will give it up eventually. Obviously he needs the security. He is a boy who knows what he needs.

I would allow it. I wouldn't even try to talk him out of it. However, I would make commentary about how proud you are that he is staying dry through the night. Let him decide not to wear them anymore. Truly, it's not worth the fight or the potential regression that might occur due to anxiety. Buy another pack. Keep talking up how glad you are that he's dry every morning. Visit the underwear aisle to see the cool boy's underwear whenever you go to the store. But ultimately, let him have the lead on this.

My daughter went through this exact same stage. Like many of the posters below, I chose sleep, too. Her pediatrician equated it to being a sort of security blanket. (And an expensive one at that!) One night, out of the blue (she was four), she said "no thanks" and that was the end of that.

I sure wish Loving M. had been around years ago when she had this issue, because I LOVE her idea! Can't believe I didn't think of it!

I don't really have any advice, just reassurance that this happens to others, and time/patience will take care of it. Good luck!

They used to make cloth training pants...been a few years for me, but you might check it out online. It would give your little man the sense of security he wants, and cheaper over the long haul.

Not sure how 'large' you can get them, but maybe for all three? That, and a rubber sheet (or chucks like they use in hospitals) may set you on the road to freedom? (or at least cheaper).

Best!

Let him wear it. Mine decided to stop when the weather got warmer and the pull up was just too hot for him. Let him decide when it is time. There is so little they have control over in their lives. Let him have this.

Honestly, if he's dry, what difference does it make? Especially if you can use the same one for a few days.

Let him wear it if it makes him feel better. You're not reinforcing any kind of bad behavior with that if he's already dry. Maybe try wearing only underpants on a big special occasion, like his next birthday. Make that the milestone for him to stop wearing the pull ups and then make a big deal out of it.

He doesn't feel safe yet. He's doing fine. Let him wear them as long as he wants. One thing you might do is get him a bed pad that's a just in case. He might feel safe with that.

He might like the feel of the padding too and that's what is helping him stay dry.

It wouldn't be a big deal with me.

Guess he sees/hears about their accidents and is worried he will have one too. I would offer incentive....when he goes 1 night without he gets something, 3 nights something bigger etc.