Do You like to Sleep Cuddled up to Your Man (Or Woman?)

I need my space when I sleep, and there is no way my husband could spoon me without getting in the mood.

I can do it for about five minutes and then it's a kiss goodnight and got to my own side of the bed. There's a reason we have a queen sized bed and not a full, y'know?

I could have written exactly what you wrote. Thanks for the affirmation that I can still love my husband! He worries about that; I just like to sleep without someone holding me in place!

I cuddle after sex......sometimes.
I can NOT sleep cuddled up. I toss and turn a lot. I sleep hot. I can't stand sleepign when he is BREATHING on me. It just makes me crazy, awake, and cranky.
So, we climb into bed, kiss goodnight (or something else! lol) and then each turn to our own sides.
bliss.
L.

Touch me, breathe on me, I turn into a crazy person. Sleep and my own space is very important to me. Will cuddle anytime except when it is time to sleep.

LOL this may be TMI. After one particularly long, nasty stand-off in our marriage my husband and I were in a phase where we were actively trying to reconnect with and be nice to each other. We fell asleep one night "spooned" and it was so nice and warm, snuggly and cuddly. I remarked "why did we ever stop sleeping this way?" as we drifted off to sleep. Well we figured it out in the morning when we woke up and he was, um, standing at attention. Big time. We don't really have time to take care of that kind of thing in the morning so he said "yeah, now I remember why we don't sleep wrapped together my day starts off like this..."

So I can fall asleep spooning/cuddling but we need to separate during the night or I'm woken up earlier than I want to be woken up by a horny husband looking for a morning quickie.

I'm with you! I love my husband and I love to cuddle, but when it's time to sleep.... to your corner!!

And JB, don't they ALWAYS wake up like that?? LOL

Can't stand it. I'm instantly too hot. And I need to move.

I am a very light sleeper and to get between me and sleep..is dangerous.

OMG I have to have my own "space" and my own side, when I sleep.
And I just need to be sleeping my own way.

So I guess yeah, I can't be all confined when I sleep.
Hate it.

Hah - I'm right there with Birdsfreakmeout - if my husband starts breathing on me I kick him so he rolls over!

Actually when we started going out almost 20 years ago we did the spooning thing every night. But as we've gotten older we definitely don't do it any more. He sleeps too lightly, I like to sprawl out on my side, and he's cold while I'm hot.

A compromise that I really like is just reaching my foot over so it touches his at night (almost like holding hands but with feet). Maybe this would work out? Or just print out all our responses to show him that you aren't the only one who doesn't want to cuddle!

DH and I have had separate bedrooms for almost all of our blissful 21+ years of marriage. He snores and sleeps with a cpap machine, I'm a light sleeper. It works for us. I'm not much of a cuddler and neither is he. I would never be able to sleep the way you've described. I think it's time to either gently tell DH it's just not working for you or maybe get a big body sized pillow to put between you so he has something to cuddle up to?

as being single for 12 yrs now n not seeing any man on the horizon yet..id say...COUNT YOUR LUCKY STARS....look how lucky you are to have your hubby in bed and wanting to touch you thru the nite..annoying-maybe..but some of dont have that anymore..and god forbid he should die or leave you-your gonna miss that-so id say-soak it up like a sponge-quit complaining n enjoy the fact you have your devoted loving hubby still...

Haha, I can't believe the answers are so one-sided!

We love to cuddle and do so every night. He spoons me or I spoon him, our legs twist together just so. Even though we recently upgraded from a queen bed to a cal king, we both sleep on one side or the middle of the bed.

On rare occasions, my husband or I am restless, in which case we give the other one space to fall asleep. But we always find each other in the middle of the night. Just one of our love languages I guess. :)

I have to cuddle and pet her to get her to sleep. Then we're on our own.

No cuddling. I must face the wall. I can't stand a person breathing by me.

We both love to snuggle and cuddle. He usually tickles my back,neck and head as we lay together talking. Then at some point we get sucked to opposite sides of our CA King bed. It is almost as if we are gripping on for dear life to the sides of the bed...but we both just happen to sleep that way. I can't believe we never fall off. You could fit a small army between us!

If we slept together all snuggly warm and wrapped in eachother's arms then you'd find us lying in a puddle of sweat in the morning!! Yuck!!

So..we snuggle then roll..and roll ..and roll to opposite sides.

BUT..the cat hasn't caught onto this. She somehow always finds herself snuggled in our crotches or spooned behind our legs. She didn't get the memo! But 12 pound fluffy is different than my 185 lb hunk of burning love :) ..emphasis on the "burning"

omg i'm right there with you. i love a brief sweet cuddle, and occasionally even fall asleep spooned, but it doesn't and can't last. i can't sleep with people touching me.
khairete
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There is a very funny Friends episode about this - Ross' "Hug and Roll" move... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j0eStJlnNKo

I hate to be cuddled when I'm sleeping. I feel trapped.

Sometimes. But it never lasts all night. I enjoy my space and he enjoys his.

We usually fall asleep snuggling. Either me on his chest, him spooning me, or some variation of legs entangled. But we usually wake up in the morning on our own side of the bed. Then as we hit snooze over and over, we snuggle some more. Here's way too much info... I don't like to spoon as much as he does because he claims I fart in my sleep, thus "poofing" on his leg. I've heard it enough that I feel "on guard" when in that position. I can't help what I do in my sleep, ya know? LOL! Surprisingly, he still wants to spoon. Go figure!

I can't sleep with anyone touching me. I need to sprawl out to be comfortable.

Ha ha! Yes, the "trapped" feeling! All I have to say is" touch me when I am trying to sleep and you will die. I take my sleep time very seriously! :)

I do like to sleep with a warm body touching me. Spooning is good if at some point we move somewhat apart. I like to feel the warmth of a body nearby even then. When I first started sleeping with someone I did feel claustrophobic. It takes awhile to adjust to each others needs for closeness and space. I do like to cuddle once I know that I can move when I want to.

Feeling someone's skin against mine is comforting. During stressful times I've found that sleeping with someone is helpful. No sex; just sleep. I think that I learned this way of coping because I slept with my mother during difficult times.

My grandchildren slept with me and I loved it when they curled up against me. I miss that.

this is why my DH and i have different bed rooms!!

I need my space to sleep. My hubby snores like a freight train and when he tries to spoon and is snoring, I go nuts.

I feel ya!! My husband is the same way. But after being married 8 years he knows better. When its time for sleep we kiss goodnight and that is it! I turn my way and he turns his. If he tries to cuddle with me at night he will get a cold shoulder every. single. time. Cannot stand it! Don't keep me awake and don't wake me up! Seriously!