Do you have a friend that only seems to call when she needs or wants something from you? She never calls, sends an email, text or via FB to say hello and see what's up, but only when she wants something from you.
I have one of those. She just called. (I knew as soon as I heard her voice she was going to ask me for something.) Is it to much to ask to at least greet me with "How are you?" or "Is this a good time?" Oh well. Thanks...
Update: I suppose I should put my money where my mouth is and say to you mama's: "Hello and how are you!" :-)
I used to. She ONLY called when she needed something and I felt like a doormat.
I was fed up so the last time she called me, after the initial "hello" I said "so what do you want today". She got the message.
I have one friend that does this.
I have done this upon occasion. I have paid more attention when I call some people so I don't do this. I have caught my self and have then made it a point to just call and say "Hi, Howya doing?" And then just listen. It makes me feel better. I think it helps them. I took them some chocolate chip cookies, fresh from the oven and loved the surprised look on their face and the smile at the fragerance of the cookies..
I don't want to be the "friend in need" all the time.
Good luck to you and yours.
Yep. Which is why I never reach out to her anymore, nor to do I make plans specifically with her.
If I happen to be free and motivated when she calls - we hang out.
That happens maybe 1x/year.
Takes a lot of frustration out of the equation when you remove all of your expectations.
Oh, we are fine!! Yes, we have a male relative, my husband's cousin who never ever calls, ever except when he wants something. He doesn't call back, and if he answers when my husband calls he wants my husband to fix his car. All the time. Or his daughter's car or his son's car. And these are all adult people close to thirty who could ask him themselves. They also didn't come to our son's wedding and didn't respond or let us know they weren't. (an entire family). Pretty rude isn't it> well, my husband is finally understanding they are not so nice.
YESS!! I had a friend who would call me and talk my ear off about herself for 20 minutes while i literally would just add in an occassional "uh huh. oh wow." It got to the point where she was only calling me to ask to babysit her 2 small kids--up to 7 or 8 times a week! And when I did watch them she would drop them off still in their pajamas, without food or drinks, and would say she would be back in a couple house--a "couple" easily turned into 6 or 7 and she would have her phone off the whole time. I stopped answering the phone and wouldnt respond to texts or facebook messages...i've been much happier since cutting her out of my life.
Yes and she is my twin sister. Ridiculous!
I think we ALL have a friend like that! lol.... But I hate it when you call them and they never call you back! Also this friend will send me random text's about things she's doing and it's like really? I DON'T CARE! lol....But yes, I know exactly what your talking about, and when they do call you and when they start talking it's always the "me-me-me-MEEEEE" where they are only talking about themselves and give you no chance to respond, Ugh! Annoying! But what I do now when that friend calls is ignore her phone calls and call her when "I" want to call her back, ya know? Let them get a taste of their own medicine kind'a thing! lol
No, but I have a friend who only calls period, meaning we never get together. She bails on all our plans, never shows for parties we have etc. But she sure as hell calls EVERY day. And if I don't talk to her for a day or two, she flips her lid and blows up my phone thinking I'm mad! I actually just posted a question about it myself. I guess the only time I SEE her, is when she needs something.......
I've gotten to the point that I'm just not putting in any effort and sounds like you should do the same! Quit taking her calls for awhile. Then eventually let her know, "The only time you want to talk to me you seem to need something" And if it doesn't change, just quit answering all together!
LOL.. I did. For many years it was like that. But we hardly talk anymore.
I am okie dokie ... and I have a friend and a sister that is like this ... I call them on it though, esp when it's been too much.
A couple of thoughts...is she a friend or someone who needs help?
....Do you go to her if you need a friend or someone else? I have realized that some people are in our lives because they need the help we can provide and sometimes they are in our lives to keep us in check and not enable bahaviors that they need to stop or we need to keep our priorities in check for our families and our husbands.
No I don't anymore, if it's not your family get rid of her.
Hello to you!!!! Hope you are able to shrug this off and have a great day!!
No, I can't say that I do.
All of my relationships seem to be give and take...I think if I had one who only called when she wanted something, I would be like the other poster and say "What do you want today?"
Hope you stand your "friend" and not let yourself be taken advantage of.
E.,
Sadly, there are lots of those out there! You just continue being nice as usual and hopefuly she will change her views and not only call for favors! Often, this happens with time....
You can also pleasantly tell her; i'd appreciate if you can call once in a while just to say hi too....
Loads of Luck!
We actually have a family member who is like that! :)
