Do You Have a Child with ADD? Need Ideas.

Updated on May 22, 2007
L.K. asks from Schaumburg, IL
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My son is 13 years old. I have some ideas, and go to counseling, as well as good friends. However, it is hard to do this whole thing sometimes. Sometimes I need the support of someone who has a boy or girl around his age. Does anyone deal with this issue? L. K.

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K.R.

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HI All My name is Kris. I work with all kinds of special needs children all different ages. I teach parents how to do Massage(touch therapy) and it works wonders. If you would like any info please contact me. I also speak to local groups about the benifets and history.You can contact me at ____@____.com or ###-###-####.Hope I can be of some help.
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H.Z.

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I have a 13 yr old daughter who has been diagnosed with ADD (NOT ADHD). It has been absolutely hellish. She also suffers from anxiety. I have been unable to find a medication with acceptable side effects. She is very, very naturally thin, and all of the meds available eliminate her appetite completely. Plus all the meds seem to be for ADHD, and she has no hyperactivity at all. We have seen 3 different psychiatrists and they all tell me different things, which doesn't help. We have been trying to sort all this out for a few years now and have had no good results. Eventually, I took her off all medications, and worked on behavior mods. This seems to be working better for her, but it is exhausting for both of us. I've been very disappointed with her treatment, and, while I would rather not do it all myself - I'm NOT a qualified medical professional - I haven't seen any clear results since she was diagnosed that justify me spending enormous amounts of money and time on someone who is. I wish you and your son the best. I hope you have a better outcome than we have so far.

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E.B.

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I have a daughter 11 yrs old with adhd sensory issues,

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F.O.

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Hello,
I also have a 13 year old son, who has the same problem. Alot of it is ODD and bordem for him. I try to get him interested in out doors stuff. Unfortantely for me here we live he does not have alot of friends. The friends he does are his siblings and their friends, they are younger. On weekends I try to send him to his aunt's becasue she has kids his age and it gives me a break.

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H.G.

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L., call my friend kyria, her son is add and he is 17 now and his add is pretty much in control, she put him on some kind of nutrition therapy and its made a huge difference, definitely email her or give her a call!
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R.L.

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Hi L.,

I have a 5.5 year old son with AD/HD. While our sons are not in the same age group, I agree that this can be difficult. I'm sure it is even more challenging being a single mom. Have you contacted CHADD of Chicago ###-###-####? Maybe they could refer you to a local support group. They also have an online support group at www.CHADD.org. Keep your chin up!

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J.P.

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Hi L.,
I can completely understand your frustrations. My step-son will be 12 next week and he is ADHD. My husband and I have full custody of him, so I can relate to the everyday problems this disorder comes with. Our son is on meds and it does help him quite a bit. My personal e-mail is ____@____.com Please, feel free to contact me with any questions or frustrations to vent. Good luck.

J.

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T.F.

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Hi L., My son Stephen is a couple of years younger at 9 but also has ADD and diselict. I have fought putting him on meds for years and have just in the past 6 months done so. We try everything for him. Stephen would do great at home one-on-one but when he got around other children he couldn't seem to keep his mouth zipped. All his teachers love him but for this one as they put it fualt. He is still full of why's. He never seem to grow out of that stage. The pills(Ritalin)upset his stomach so the last month his has been on Daytrana. This is a new patch that just came on the market. He wears it for nine hours and doesn't have the ups and downs of the pill. Stephen stills talks, just not as much. He no longer has later assignment and is much more confident in every day life. He is a very smart young boy. Who can't seem to stop reading and is well above his age backet in that subject. As long as he use flash cards for spelling and math problems he also does great in those subject. Hopefully you well be able to find something that helps with yours son.If you would like to talk my e-mail is ____@____.com Hope for the best T.

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J.C.

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Dear L.,

I am a Mom with three boys from a previous marriage and inherited two more with a second marriage. My eldest now 20 has severe ADD my second has a mild case and the youngest has LD and is on an ISP at school. The youngest from the second marriage has an anger issue that stems from early childhood with bio mom.
As to the issue with your boy and ADD, I did not have any of the kids on meds. I tried them but there were bad side effects and poor sleep habits so I took him off them and dealt with it on my own. Plus my girlfriend had her son on them long term and now he is on a liver transplant list and has a colostomy bag at 22yrs old.
ADD kids I find are highly intellegent and need stimulation and the ability to work with their hands. When it came to school work a quiet place to work was ideal, even if it was a poster board (the three sided ones) that they could hide behind and not see what was going on around them if you are cramper for space. With other kids around it is hard but if you can implement the same for them there is no finger pointing.
They also have to scheduled, for example, waking, breakfast, school, after school snack, homework up into half hour segments (get up stretch but NO T.V. total ZONE for them) also I found more of a natural diet is essential. There is something in the preservatives that worsen the ADD, at least in my case. Fresh fruits and veggies as snacks and natural juices, lots of water. bed time rituals are great too, shower pack up everything for school and when it comes to school organize each class with a different color folder with matching notebook, mark one side of the folder HOMEWORK and the other COMPLETED HOMEWORK, organizational skills are a must!
LOTS of outdoor exercise, walking with you or dad or family member healthy for you too!
Hang in there, once you get a system down things will run smoothly for you and the rest of the family. I am a survivor of this, not saying that everything was peaches and cream but it worked for me.

Best of luck
Jennie
You and your spouse on the other hand have to have strict rules and guildlines, if not this will eventually turn into behavior problems when they hit puberty (hormones and boys are not a great combination) stressing different and non violent ways in handleing situations are and should be talked about ALL the time.

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A.B.

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You could try the www.chadd.org website - they have all types of info, including lists of support groups.

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