Do I Worry to Much?

I was the same way. I am the mom of daughter 22, and son 15 and i am still very protective with them.....we live in a crazy world these days and you cannot be to safe.

K.

You're not crazy...I have a 14 month old baby girl, and I worry someone will kidnap her, and hate when someone other than myself is driving her around b/c of car wrecks...I think we all have some thoughts like that, but don't let it consume you! We as Mothers have that instinct to protect our children, but they are not glass objects. My husband has to remind me of that everytime she falls or bumps her head....all children have to fall sometimes...it's how they learn! If you think it is something you need to discuss w/someone than by all means talk to someone, but I think most of your fears are legit!

ALL mothers worth their salt are concerned about their child's safety and well-being. That is normal.

Concern is not worry. Worry can be problem, IMHO. It gives you the false sense that you are doing something and you are not.

I believe that you should manage those things that are within your control and be prepared to let go of those things that are not within your control.

If you're worried about him getting hurt, childproof your home appropriately, buy a good car seat and install it properly, set the hot water heater to the right temperature so he won't get burned, etc. These kinds of things are in your control. You can manage them.

I remember when my first was born and I didn't want her to leave my site because I was afraid she'd stop breathing. Most of my GF's tell me it was the same for them and their first too. I was not near this anxious with #2 and #3. (and they all kept right on breathing weather I watched them or not!)

Maybe you just have a little of the new mommy anxiety left over.

here's my bottom line on advice for you - if your anxiety/worry is preventing you from enjoying your motherhood experience and infringing on your son's childhood - it is a problem. seek help.

Hi E. :)

Well, I wanted to tell you that you are very normal. All moms worry about their babies getting sick, kidnapped, being tormented, etc.

I was very protective of my first child. Probably too much so. I think all moms are. With my 4th one, I am way more relaxed (and people are happy to see that I'm chilling out some! LOL).

My first one would have never had the chance to eat something off the floor. My 4th one hunts for treats on the floor hoping someone left something tasty behind.

Some things do not change though, blood still gets me in a tizzy no matter which kid it is. :)

Your baby is 14 months old, and still a baby. At 14 months old, none of my kids were in playgroups. They are developmentally not ready for that concept of playing with friends. It's more parallel play anyway, and taking toys that they like away from their "friends" or smacking each other.

I don't know how much older the child that was picking on Austin was, but toddlers have zero social graces. My 15 month old loves to slap and ouch! I kindly redirect her and tell her "no" so what does she do, she'll run off and yanks a handful of her sisters hair. Tell her no, and she grins and runs off somewhere else. She loves a reaction, no matter what it is. The toddler age is all about learning boundaries, and seeing what happens when you something. Which makes me think that Newton had toddlers around when he came up with his 3rd law of motion :)--For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

I think the best advice I can give you is go with your gut and what your mommy instincts tell you. You know your son and what is best for him. Do not feel like something is wrong with you for being what you are, his Mommy! :)