Do I Remind Friend She Owes Me for 2 Concert Tickets?

J., don't be a bill collector. You gave her til November. Don't get antsy when she takes til November.

I don't think that it's too soon. "Hey, I was wondering if you decided on making payments or giving it back in one lump sum. I just want to remind you that I need it all by November."

Yes - you remind her. Perhaps just a quick email "Hey Jenny - I can't wait for the Madonna concert with you in a few months. Whenever you get a minute, will you send me a check for the tickets? The cost for you and your mom is $___".

Just keep it short and simple. She can then respond with a check, or a note telling you she'll pay in September, or whatever.

I've been getting mass text messages from a friend that is planning a bridal shower. She send them to everyone, so it isn't offensive. It's usually something like - "hi girls, I'm going shopping tomorrow for the hostess gift. Please let me know if you will be able to pay your $25 this week. That way I know what the budget is." I'm not offended and it's not uncomfortable for her, because it's not directed at anyone. Maybe you could do that. "Hey girls, so looking forward to the concert. It's time to start making travel arrangements, so, if you haven't made plans to cover your ticket, nows the time to budget for that so we aren't scraping for spending money when the concert gets here."

YOU said yourself that you would cover the tickets until the time of the concert...November. I don't think you say a thing. It's not November yet! (thank god!)
L.

Not offensive at all. Last summer I purchased 4 Journey concert tix for myself and 3 girlfriends. I asked them all, prior to putting them on my card, if they could all send the money asap. One did and the other two I had to remind and ask again. One of them I had to remind twice. No big deal.

Since the other friend paid you recently, I would just call or email the one that still owes and say something like, "hey, so-and-so just paid me for her ticket and that reminded me to remind you that I need payment for your two tickets. Let me know when you will be getting that to me. Thanks." Good luck!

It shouldn't bother you at all that she's spending her own money on things for her own yard and home. You're not her money manager, and her money shouldn't automatically go to you first because she owes you a few bucks for some concert tickets. You told her that she had until November to pay you for the tickets, so stick with it. Remind her at the beginning of October about the concert, mention how excited you are about getting together for it, and ask her if she's still interested if she hasn't paid you yet. When she says, "Yes, of course, why?" you can say, "November is coming up fast, and we need to make sure the tickets are paid by then. I'll need your portion of the ticket costs soon."

In short, give her time.

Yes, you should remind her. You can send her a short e-mail that says, you wanted to follow up and see what type of payment schedule would work for her and suggest payments every two weeks or so and see how she responds. I wouldn't go so far as to mention the details posted on FB because that doesn't not mean she has actual cash to utilize, but could be using credit cards. People don't realize that they post too much information on FB.

Ugh, I hate this sort of thing! Let's see ... you said you didn't need the money until the time of the concert (Nov), but she offered to pay you over the summer (basically now, or within the next 7 weeks). So, I'd say it's a little too soon to remind her.

Then again, you know her. Is she likely to forget that she owes you? Or back out of the concert? If so, you could just ask if she's still planning to go with you. That would probably spark a discussion about the money. If you're worried, just ask her. She shouldn't get offended. If she does, that's her own issue.

Good luck!

ADDITIONAL THOUGHT:

While some folks wouldn't walk across the street to see Madonna, there are thousands of others who would buy the tickets overnight or at the door for probably double what you have paid.

Summer is far from over, so it seems you do not trust the person you call "friend".

I would wait until September since the concert isn't until November. If you can't wait, I would suggest sending out an email to everyone to see if they are still on board for the concert.

I'm sorry but this is the problem with so many people. If she is so tight on money that she has to actually make payments for concert tickets which are in no way a necessity, she shouldn't go... Anyway, bc of that, I'd have no trouble reminding her but the easiest way is to just mention the concert in general. Post on her page or in a chatty email, say how much your looking forward to it and you hope she and her mother are as well. Then it's more clear she knows it's coming. If you've already been talking about the concert, I'd wait until early to mid-Aug and then ask her. Then summer's about over so you're being more than fair. To be honest if she's this bad with money, it shouldn't be your problem. I'd ask if she still wants to go or if it's going to be tough to pay for the tickets, should you start trying to sell them now? If she doesn't respond appropriately, I don't think i could be friends with her anymore.

I just sent money to my friend who bought Neil young tickets. My logic is to get the money to them before the credit card bill comes.
BUT....you told her she could pay you in November. To me thats telling her that she can give you the cash or check the day of.
You already set the terms, IMO. I wouldn't say a thing.

Yes, just remind her.
She did after all, also invite her Mom.
Just remind her, that she still needs to pay you back.
It has been 5 months already.

Or maybe your friend assumes she has until November, to pay.
You told her you can cover the costs until then.
She does not know, nor did you tell her, that she needs to make payments before then.
And you told her she can wait to pay you back over the summer.

Please don't feel that you have to beat around the bush and wait for her to "remember" that she owes you money. Call her up and tell her that you just want to give her a friendly reminder of the price for the tickets to the concert you fronted for her and her mom, so would she please send you a check.

I take it that you still have the tickets in your hand. Keep it that way. She doesn't get the tickets until the check clears. (Make sure you wait long enough to know that it really does - if her bank is in your state, take it there and cash it. That way you know she is good for the money.

As long as you say it nice, the only thing she could possibly find offensive is that she was hoping you'd forget about the money part. It is summer now. She asked to pay you in the summer. It's not too early.

Hope you get paid.

Dawn

Definitely remind her. It is not offensive and she may be a little embarrassed but you are right to bring it up. You have definitely given her enough time!

This is what my cousin did. I would email her and tell her you want to mail her the tickets because its easier for everyone to arrive with tickets in hand. This way you do not have to wait for anyone. Believe me it sinks to wait to go to your seats. BUT....I would add that as soon as you mail me the check I will send out your tickets asap. I would not put any explanation with it only that its easier when people have tickets in hand. If she does ask say oh my I have to pay that bill so everyone is paying now. Be kind and light about it.

Ugh. This is why I don't like mixing money with friends/family. It ALWAYS gets awkward. I'm not sure how a grown up forgets about paying for 2 expensive concert tickets that a close friend put their neck out for. If I were her I'd be embarrassed & probably wouldn't have had you purchase the tickets if I couldn't afford them.

Anyway, yes, you should remind her. I'm guessing those weren't $50 tickets. Just say, "Look, I know you're busy with summer & house & all, but so & so just paid me for the tickets & I'm a little strapped & wanted to see when you're going to start paying for the tickets". I still can't imagine letting a friend hang like that. I'd kind of question the friendship, I think.

it's really none of your business what she's spending money on right now.
if you want her to start repaying it now, just let her know. it's not rude. 'hey, prunella, i was wondering how you wanted to handle the ticket thingie. it's okay if you need to wait until fall, but it would also be okay to take care of it this summer<G>.'
i had some friends front me money to see a play, and because i'm a dingbat i forgot until one reminded me. i was embarrassed that i put her in that position, but she was cool and i paid up right away and all was well. friends don't really sweat that stuff.
it does sound as if you don't really trust her, so you should probably address it sooner rather than later. but then in the future don't tell people they have until november, or even 'over the summer', if you don't actually mean it.
khairete
S.

Just remind her! I forget things all the time and am thankful for the reminder!
However, anytime you "front" someone money you take a risk!