My 3yr old daughter goes to a very nice daycare, but she refuses to take a nap or stay on her mat during "quiet time". on the days she does conk out, they say that she is a nice fun little girl but on the days she refuses to take a nap, she is defiant and talks back and is not very fun to be around. So my question is, what can i do at home to help her take a nap at daycare. i have talked until i am blue in the face and it doesn't seem to be working very well. I should mention she is not attached to any toys or activities to take away from her as a punishment. i don't know how to get my child to behave when i am not there. any suggestion
Does she like rewards? You could try a sticker chart--if you are told that she took a nap at daycare, she gets to put a sticker on her sticker chart. If the joy of putting a sticker on the chart is enough, leave it at that, but if that isn't enough of an incentive, try after x amount of stickers, she gets to choose a small toy from a bag of toys...small being the keyword here...party favors, etc.
Hi J.,
I would take italong the lines of she doesn't have to sleep but she has to stay on the mat and be quiet. There has to be somthing that she likes there always is and I find that to be the best currency for my daughter who is now 4. Going outside when she gets home, desert after dinner, cartoons, going to grandparents houses, going to the park, something. I would encourage you to watch what she likes to do then explain to her if she cannot sit and be quiet on the mat at school these things will be taken away from her. Maybe she could take a cool coloring book or book if they will let her, to do while it is nap time, but it has to be on the mat. Hope this helps, stick to it and you'll find somthing that works.
K.
I have to say that I don't think you can punish your child for what happens at daycare. You have to work with the daycare to find a discipline that they can impliment at the time the bad behavior is occurring.
I have this exact problem with my 4 year old when he is at Grandma's house while I work. I can not control what he does when I'm not there. At home he naps like a champ or at least plays quietly in his room for 1 1/2 hours. We have never had a problem at home. However, he will not remain in his room at Grandma's and does not go to sleep. I feel this is because Grandma has not disciplined him at other times so she is unable to control him at nap time.
Hopefully you can work with the daycare on this to find a solution. I'm sure she isn't the first one to have this problem, but the daycare can not put this responsibility on you. It's up to them to take control of the situation. I know it must hurt you to hear that your daughter isn't behaving when you're not there. It's a difficult situation to be in. Good Luck!
Well I would change her sleeping schedule at home and have her loose alittle so she will take those naps. I had to do that to me child and it seemed to work pretty well. I put her to sleep at 8:30 and made her get up no later then 6:00 am. She has alot of activity during the day because I am a in home provider I make sure the kids get a lot of running and playing time. So anyways I would change sleeping schedule and ask the daycare if they can have her a little more active during the day.
