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Honestly...I would look into Running Start.
It's free to take classes at college for HS students, her HS has to abide by the schedule, and it may just shake things up enough to get her going again.
((So too, if she starts Running Start, you may find her very excited to actually be going to her HS...since it will be on odd hours (making her feel adult) & because that's the only time when she sees her friends. It will no longer be the daily drudgery...but something that happens in between her college classes.))
In fact...you could go the route of REALLY shaking things up, and get her involved in her own life. It's really easy to fall into HS-groove, where nothing really matters and everything is amorphous, and what happened 3rd period is CRISIS WORSE THEN GAZA. I'd still HIGHLY recommend getting her into some college classes, regardless...and you're lucky...BCC is the best CC on the West Coast, and it's only 15 minutes away from Kirkland. But if you want to shake her loose try this:
- Rent a hotel room for a night and give her about two weeks notice that you're going to be having a "Girls Life Night" where just the two of you are going to be talking about the future & planning & her ideas for her life & "schtuff".
- Tell her bring everything she can think of relating to what she wants to do after HS...but don't expect her to actually have everything.
You bring the following:
- Craigslist
- NW Jobs
- Info on Running Start
- BCC's big fat all classes offered book / course calendar
- BCC's spring registration
- UW/Seattle U course calendar
- Beauty School/ Horsetraining School/ Technical school ...essentially whatever it is that she is interested in course catalogue and requirements.
- An open mind
- etc.
So you order up room service (or bring in burgers) and sit up late and talk. Find out, find out, find out, & plan. This might even turn into a bit of a tradition. Especially with having two such younger siblings...she's going to feel very special and very adult having this happen...and the "trust" that she's being put in charge of her own life and has a say (duh...why do so many teenagers not realize this? Hello!! You're not 4) can also help tp spark some animated discussion. Having those course catalogs & job listings are key though...so you can have something very solid to look at requirements. It might help too, to have Dorm Room&Board, and apartments for rent stuff with you. Get her thinking. Get her planning. The theme for the night could essentially be "Out out of the amorphous, tangled, & vague!! Details, laughter, & planning like only women can!!"
Good Luck!