My little man 16 months has moved up in his daycare class and is having a horrible time. He cries so so hard when my husband and I leave. I have tried sitting with him for a bit before I leave..and I'm trying to help him with the anxiety of leaving..he just isn't adjusting like I thought he would. The worst part is that we will be changing Daycare in Sept...all new people, friends, and place. I'm worried that we will have to go through all of this again.
Seeing Mommy & Daddy leave is upsetting to all kids. Have the caregivers said that your son is ok & calms down after you leave? Usually after the parents are gone and the kids get distracted with something, they are actually fine!
Adjusting to a new daycare will be hard. But, kids usually do ok with adjusting. They will get used to it. I'm sure it will happen again when he has to go to kindergarten or 1st grade. Just give him time :)
I work in a daycare, so I can say from personal experiences, say goodbye, hugs and kisses, and leave! Don't look back or show that you are upset about leaving him there!! He will be fine. I have a 16 1/2 month old and it breaks my heart... b/c I thought she needed me more than she actually does!!! I thought her world would stop, she would be so upset, etc... but give her 5 min and she is off running and playing. It's hard to walk out of the room, hearing your child cry... but I promise, 9/10 times, they're done before you even get out of the parking lot. The other 1/10... well, it may take them a few more minutes, but then they'll forget why they were even upset. Daycare workers are trained to handle crying/upset kids. Especially at this age, they are so easily distracted. Just let Gavin know that you love him and will be back at (whatever time you normally pick him up). Even though he doesn't understand the concept of time, it helps to "train" them to acknowledge that even though you are leaving, he can trust that you will return. Good luck!!!
i work some in my son's daycare and it is so hard leaving them when they cry but most of the time when you close that door they forget about it and are complately find and usally get down and play. it is just that sec. that you walk out the door that is alittle hard. but i have also found sticking around too long usually makes it worse. my son is 3 and has just now got to where is doesnt cry all the time when i leave. but ive begun not sticking around just telling him by and ill be back and love him. then his teacher gets him and i leave.
I agree with the other responses. My son went through the same thing and I cried everyday after I got to work. One day I actually hid around the corner and listened for him. Amazingly, as soon as I was around the corner he was playing with a toy and not even thinking about me. All mothers go through this and it can make you feel horrible.
My son did the same thing when I started bringing him to daycare and the instructor actually told me that the best thing a parent can do is say goodbye and leave. She said they get used to it and the longer you make the goodbye's, the longer it takes them to get over it. Within 2 weeks my son wasn't a problem anymore! Hope this helps!
