This is a baby shower the dad to be is hosting for his male friends to help him celebrate....usually there is beer and all the men bring diapers.
Personally I am not a fan. But hubs has been invited to a few and quite literally picks up stops at the super market on the way there and picks up a pack.....should I be coaching him that they need to be wrapped or need to be supplemented with a baby toy or something...or just let it be...The dad to be is not a mutal friend so I don't know the mom to be..
I'm really surprised people are familiar with this. I'd be more into it if it
Was just a party and no gifts were involved.
Dh mentioned one of the other guests and I recognized the name...that man's wife always gives extravagant beautifully presented gifts..which made me wonder if these bashes really are as low key as they sound or if like kids birthday parties ..might be morphing into some sort of gala.
Men hate to be micromanaged (so do women!) this is his party, his invite, so let him do his own thing.
Just let it be. This is a man thing- a 6 pack and a pack of diapers.
If you want to give him any advice, tell him that the newborn swaddlers are a good idea. Or give him beer advice. Otherwise, let him be. I don't think guys are really into gift wrap and all the work that comes with it (buying it, recycling it, etc.)
You may not be a fan, but this is how guys roll. Men can't get together to celebrate in their own way, in a very practical way? Personally, I wish my own baby shower included beer and practicality. (And yes, I drank small amounts of beer or wine during my pregnancy. Husband bought me a dainty glass for such things.)
I think you should treat him like a grown man and not try to micromanage his attendance at, or the gifts he brings to, baby showers with his friends.
You're not a fan? I'm guessing these guys aren't looking for your approval.
If he's already been going to these he is probably familiar with their own particular quirks.He's going to be fine.Just tell him to take a cab home if he drinks too many beers.
I agree with Nervy Girl, the newborn Swaddler diapers were awesome.
If you feel you need to say something to your husband you can tell him that the P- Swaddlers diapers are a great choice.
The dads probably don't wrap a single gift. It's diapers, there's no surprise...I'd be totally wondering about a guy if he did wrap diapers. That's not a guy thing.
They just want to get together and hang out, talk about married life and kids.
I think it sounds like a fantastic party! A gift bag is as wrapped as you're going to get from me and I'm a female. Why would it need to be supplemented with a baby toy? It's a diaper party. I am sure there will be more then enough baby toys at the "ladies only" baby shower.
I wish more baby showers would just be co-ed honestly as it's the parents celebrating, not just the mom-to-be. Our baby showers were co-ed and involved beer and were so much fun! If that's not going to be an option then I think the way the guys are doing it around you is a good second best idea. Good on the guys for finding a way to be a part of the celebration of becoming a new parent!
Why would you coach your husband so that he can go to a man's shower as if it is a woman's shower? What you are proposing is no different than if he told you to go to your showers with the gift unwrapped and no toy, you would look like an idiot. So don't make your husband look like an idiot, he knows what he is doing.
I just ran this by my husband, he says your husband has the etiquette down perfectly. Guys don't want to clean up wrapping paper, the diapers are an excuse to get together and drink beer.
bro in law did poker parties. The buy in was $20 and a pack of diapers. Something for the guys to do while the women were at the baby shower. Dont make him wrap it. If he wants to go let him and if he doesnt oh well. We have parties for everything these days. And they are overblown. It can be fun but it can be exhausting. I pick and choose what I want to do and dont have a problem saying it.
