DeadBeatDad, Or Should I Belive His Story.

he needs to sleep?
he's sick?
he's broke?

OH MY GAWWWWWD.
POOR HIM!

Someone call Dr. Phil and get this guy some free loot and a much-needed vacation.

My heart aches... no... BLEEDS for him.
He must be exHAUSTED.

send me an address so I may properly kick him in the junk and slap him around a bit. Somewhere down the line you didn't make it clear that you are parenting fulltime, going to school fulltime, and working parttime. Ewps! Guess he forgot the world does not revolve around him. He needs a gentle reminder.

Sounds like a garnishment is in order. Time to file for one. Be prepared with exactly how much he is in arrears.

As far as Dad being a Dad, sigh, that's harder to enforce. It will not do your child any good to spend time with someone who is being forced to parent against his will. It IS very sad, sad for Dad, he's missing so much.

Go get the financial support you and your son need Sista!

:)

I would not wait a single day longer. I would have his butt in court with his earnings being garnished. IF you have to make this person be a man and step up to the plate ....then do it for the sake of your baby. If you have to look up what a dead beat dad is... don't bother, just look at your ex. I also would keep a log on what hours he is working where. I would video tape him working and bring it all to court.

Someone just said kick him in the junk!! LOL!!! Good idea!

In Minnesota, you only need to fill out a form and file it for your child support to be automatically withheld from his paycheck. Check into your options in AZ.

You can't make him spend time with his son, but you can get help getting the money his son deserves from his father. None of your ex's financial problems are your problems.

This is very simple. You pay $81 to file a modification thru the court and you MAKE him pay and MAKE him take his child. You get a VERY specific parenting plan and holiday schedule (I can email you ours, its very black and white) in place thru the court order and if he doesn't take his child on his day, you call the cops, show them the court order, they will call him and he'll have to come and get his child. You also need to buy a calendar only for documenting calls, visits, etc. As far as child support goes, if you already have something in place and he isn't paying on his own, they will garnish his pay (up to 50%) and it will be direct deposited into your bank account. Ask him if he would like to spend some time in Tent City. Stop being nice to him and make him take responibility for the child he helped make. Contact me if you need more info, I went thru this also. Good luck!!!

I don't know if his wages can be garnered, but you might want to look into that. That way, it's deducted and you don't have to count on him to do it. Good luck!

Well, as i see it he is choosing to spend his money on his roommate instead of his son... He could just make his roommate borrow money form someone else...

If he is working two jobs then he should be able to cover his child support! If His roommate is not pulling His weight that is not your problem and your child should not have to suffer for an adult's lack of responsibility. This is his child too, you did not do this on your own and you should not have to shoulder the responsibility alone either. Sure, you can sympathize with his side of the story, but is he sympathetic you your side. You have the every day care of your child, you don't get to choose when you go out, because the child is with you 24/7. You have to find care for him, you have to meet his needs, you don't get to choose when to spend time with him. Dad needs to step up and get his act together. This is a child, not a pet, time to be a man. Let the courts know of his lack of financial responsibility or his lack of meeting the requirements and they will take the money from his pay before he ever see's it. The child should come first, not the roommate. Don't let him take advantage of the fact that you are obviously the responsible parent in this relationship.

call child support and tell them that he has not paid anything and they will take him back to court

Take him back to court for Contempt of Court. (Motion for Contempt).
He has failed to comply with the order to pay child support. Doesn't matter the reasons he gives you. He can explain it to the court instead. They can implement an IDO (Income Deduction Order) and send it to his employer(s) and require THEM to take it out of his pay before his paycheck is cut, and send the $ to the Clerk to be distributed to you. And they will have a record of what he has paid, and when, and how far he is behind.

You need to report him. Even if his roommate is mooching off him, that's not your problem. You didn't make this baby by yourself, so it's not fair to expect you to care for it by yourself. My mom's checks were garnished so she HAD no choice but to pay... unless she quit her job. (Which she did, but still.)

It is all about priorities. If us mom's did this....we would be classified as a "horrible parent". Somehow, it seems acceptable for a mad to do this. I too have an ex...he has seen our daughters a total of 13days in 10 months. These are all of his choices. There are days where it has been tough for me...no break...but, I use my resources and accept help when it is offered. His poor choices have resulted in our daughters not being able to count on him, pulling away from him and has created an even closer bond with me. My ex always uses work as an excuse to not take care of his responsibilities. Now, with that said...when we divorced, the courts did require all child support to go thru the state and be duducted right from his paycheck. I am so grateful for that as if that was not the case...I am sure he would not provide anything for his kids. Good luck...do what is right for you and your child. You deserve a break too....you work hard and need your sleep as well. Most of all...your child deserves to see his/her dad! Why do some "dad's" make such horrible choices???

Why do you even care why he can't make the support payments? What difference does it make?

You don't want to make it "ugly"? It's already ugly.

Take him to court and get your son's money.