Dating with a 3 Year Old/territorial 3 Year Old

It probably is a phase. But definately tell your son that he is not to treat people that way, and enforce it as much as you can without making a huge deal. He may like getting the rise out of you. And he may just be testing his limits with you to see what he gets away with. Also during those times when he isnt around these people and says how much he loves them, use that as a perfect time to explain to him that when he treats these people poorly it hurts their feelings and makes them sad, and thats never how you treat people you love. He should come around!

Need to find out if the ex has been saying things or where this is coming from. SOMETHING obviously has changed. I've been in a similar situation for the past SEVEN, even though I'm not dating this guy and never have, he's been a friend for almost 20 years. He and his daughter lived with me for almost three years. I've been a part of her life since she was an infant (he and the mother were engaged but never married - THANK GOD).

What I realize when this kind of thing come out of her mouth, mother has been talking and she ends up admitting what her mother had said. We then talk about the reality of the situation. Many times, at 7, she's able to figure it out herself when we talk about it. I try and ask her questions to help her think things thru and let HER answer he own ?s. That way, I'm not putting words in her mouth -- RATHER......actions speak louder than words. REPEATEDLY, the past year, she's said, "I wish my mom would quit lying."

Unfortunately, she's learned some of her mother's manipulative habits, but we're on top of it.

Also, there is a book called RAISING RESPECTFUL CHILDREN That you might want to look into. This might help. Respect is something that is LEARNED, it's not automatic. We live in a society that doesn't seem to know much of that at all any more. Good luck

I may be wrong but I believe it is a phase that he will out grow.My youngest sister 22 years difference acted this way with me when she was about 3 and I told my Dad he better teach her to respect her elders or I would not come out to see them. I did not go to my fathers house for about 4 months, but would meet Daddy for coffee and lunch when she was with the baby sitter.Well the next time I went to Dads she was a differant child. I was raised very strickly and Dad had pretty much gave up that attitude with the last child. But he took the bull by the horns and she suddenly became the obediant child that didn't hit or say mean things.
Could it be ??? That his Father is putting negative thoughts into your little guys mind ? Sadly some parents do that.

To me it sounds like he is getting outside influence from your ex. Probably no one else will think this but he surely hears it from someone because at 3 they pick up on every word they hear. Has he done it after his fatherly visit? notice it just may be. Good Luck