How long is too long to let my babygirl cry herself to sleep. She is 1 and it seems like whenever I put her to bed she cries and screams. I try to let her cry it out and figure she will fall asleep, but after 15 minutes of her still screaming, I get her up, its to the point where she won't even take a nap during the day! Do any moms have to let their babies cry themselves to sleep and if so how long do they cry???
if she cries everytime maybe you waited to long to put her down or she is not to tired!! I can tell when my little one is tired and if i do not put her to bed or a nap the longer I wait the more she screams when I put her down.
My son is 3 months old and when we put him down he will cry, but not always. When he does cry we let him cry for about 10 minutes and then go in the room and talk to him and try to calm him down, but we don't get him out of bed, we will leave the room and let him cry another 10 minutes and try again to go in the room and soothe him. We usually only have to do that 2 or 3 times before he falls asleep.
Hi Lindsey have you every tried the vacumme trick? I used it on my kids many years ago when the first came home from the hospital,something with the humming .I've talked with a Friend that said she was looking for the vacumme sound on a cd to play for her new Granddaughter???? good luck
You do not have to let her cry. I bought the book "The No Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Panchley (not too positive about the last name). I can not stand to listen to dd cry at night. This is a wonderful book, but know that it will take a little time to get the results you want, miracles do not happen over night. I highly reccomend this book to anyone with a child, because at some point you are going to have a sleep issue.
Kim F. said exactly what I was going to say. Supper Nanny is a great show to watch for ideas! Her technique worked great for my kids also. Good Luck!
Hi L.,
My daughter did the same thing when she was about 9 months old. It is heart breaking isn't it? I didn't know what to do and I knew that if I kept going to get her that it was just letting her know that if she cried long enough that I would come and get her and she would have her way. Yet, I couldn't stand her screaming for so long. She would scream so hard that she would make herself throw up! Then one night, I was watching the Super nanny and she used this technique on a screaming toddler in bed. I tried it and within 3 days, no more screaming (Every once in a while she still does it and I just do this technique and she is fine). First make sure you have a good bedtime routine. What you do is when you put her to bed and she starts crying wait for 2 minutes and then go into her room and sooth her - don't pick her up and don't talk to her - just rub her back and shhhhh her or whatever soothes her . Do this until she has stopped crying and is calmed down. Then leave the room. If she starts crying the second you leave her crib, start your time from there. This time double the time to 4 minutes. Do the same thing doubling your time each time. My daughter never made it past 8 minutes doing this! It is tough and I was waiting for the minutes to pass so I could sooth my sweet baby girl but the outcome was great! Give it a try! I really hope it works for you! Good luck!
Hi L.-We had a similar issue with our son right about the time he was one as well. It was really getting out of control, and he was staying up way too late (11, 12, 1am). We decided that 9pm was bed time, and we put him down. We tried going in after a period of time to comfort him, but he would just get more worked up and cry harder when we would leave the room. So we let him cry. Not something we wanted to do, but I reminded myself that baby was fed, clean, and not ill. He cried for a very long time (at least 45 min. total torture for me) the first night, less the second, and even less the third night. It took about a week and a half before we started to flow well with the whole bed time thing. And we stuck to it, which was very tough to do. We make sure that he has a toy or two to keep him entertained, and he still cries sometimes, but ususally calms down and starts to play after a short while. We also had a whole nap time change at about this age. We went from two naps to one afternoon nap at 2pm. We've had a couple of days when he just won't go down for a nap but it's usually if he nods off in the car while running errands (even if it's only for a few minutes nap time seems to be doomed). Sometimes he cries now because he wants a specific toy that was not offered, and once he has it he's fine (he's going on two). We still seem to be on the right track now, so... Every baby is different. Best of luck. Let us know how it turns out:)
Hi L. -
Again, the method/technique you use to put your daughter to sleep depends on you guys! I could not let me son cry himself to sleep, so I did not go that route. I also read "No Cry Sleep Solution" and the "Baby Whisperer" by Tracy Hogg. The latter was my favorite. The reality is, that when you are trying to get a baby to sleep who is just learning to self soothe, they are going to be tears! My son cried, but we did not leave him to cry it out. We were there the whole time.
The main theory Tracy Hogg promotes is soothing until they are calm and not a moment longer. So, if you used her method...it would golike this. DO your betime routine (which is key) and then place your daughter in her crib, groggy but awake. If she cries, do whatever will calm her down...pick her up, pat, sing etc. The moment she stops crying, return her to her crib. Now, I won't lie, this method take a while and is really hard on your back, but it worked for us! There were times when my son would start to scream just as soon as I would bend over and we would start all over again!
Whatever method you choose will be the right one for you guys!!!
Good luck.
When my husband and I decided to try the "cry it out" method when my daughter was 12 months old, she cried for 48 MINUTES the first night. The next night she cried for 5 minutes, and the following night, she didn't cry at all. It was the longest 48 minutes of my entire life, and my husband had to physically hold me down so I didn't go in there. He kept repeating that it was for her own good. IT WAS TORTURE, but it really worked. This method is NOT for everyone, though. GOOD LUCK!!!
