A few days ago my 4 year-old daughter started to cry when I leave her at daycare. Also she's been crying, "I want my mommy" when she wakes up from her nap. She's been going to this daycare for 1 & 1/2 years now and this would only happen every now and then. She loves being around all her friends and makeing new ones, and has learned so much going to preschool there.
When she was going to a regular babysitter (there was 3 other children that went there) at the age of 1-2 she would cry every time we left her and after naps. So we got her into an actual daycare that has more kids for her to be around and associate with. I guess I'm just wondering if there's anyone else that has had the same problem? If so, what did you do to help your child stop crying?
She's really excited about being a big sister soon, so I hope it doesn't have anything to do with that area. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
I went throught that with my youngest and found out that the day care was not exactly a good one. I had went to pick up my baby early and found her sleeping! by the main exit enter door no less. kids were coming in and out while she slept. My advice is check the daycare out really good. make a few suprise visits.
I had that exact issue with my daughter at that age. I'm not certain, but I feel it has something to do with the separation they're going through at that point with growing up quite separately from Mommy but not sure that they want to. I was loving but firm and left quickly. It passed within a few months. The book, The Kissing Hand, may be of help to your little one. Lots of extra time with Mommy, too, now that baby is coming along. Enjoy your two girls!!! I definitely adore mine!
I worked at two different Daycares for almost six years. I have seen a lot of children do this! I wouldn't worry about it too much your daughter will grow out of it! Usually a minute after you leave the child is fine! With a couple of the children we would learn what they really enjoyed at the daycare. Like a special toy or project or their favorite snack and have that ready when they got there. You know something to distract them. Another thing would be having the teachers give the kids a special job or chore to do when they got there to help out (like a daily routine).Most of the time it would work and after a few minutes they may notice Mom or Dad are gone but by then they are preoccupied and don't think much of it. Best of luck!!!
My 3 year old started to act/react differently to situations the closer we got to having our 3rd baby, so I would say that your daughter's crying is associated with you getting closer to having your new little girl. Kids are able to sense when things are changing with their parents. I know towards the end of my pregnancies, I started to "nest" and just prepare mentally and my two girls sensed that and started to act up, be more whinny, etc. Just have patience and just know that it takes time to adjust, but there is light at the end of the tunnel!
Congratulations on your new little girl!
I've been a daycare provider for 7 years now. It depends on the kid as to why they are crying. If your child has done this before it's probably okay. How long does she cry after you leave. I've had kids that would cry and the parents would be worried, but as soon as they left it was only seconds and they had stopped crying and were playing.
If your child isn't normally like this, it is always good to make sure everything at daycare is going well. And it could be just the part of you having another baby.
My son did the same thing at church at that age. Whenever his dad took him to his class no crying, but when I took him he would cry.
I probably didn't help, but I know where you are. I would ask how long she cries after you leave the daycare. And I would try to stay at daycare as little has possible when you are leaving her. The longer the parents stays the harder it is for the child.
Hi A.- I have been a childcare specialist for 15 years and I have a four year old.
Ask your provider to help with drop offs to distract her and get her out of the habit of the drop off behavior. If you are secure with your provider and there have neen no reports of troubled days she may be going through some physical changes too. At about four children are trying to stay up later and trying to skip naps...this can cause a lot of emotional changes. My sweet little boy can pull behaviors out of his hat.
The reverting back to infancey to try out new attention getters is big, too! With new baby on the way and your attention already being directed to the baby - she may be anxious or worried.
Good luck-H.
