Creative Private Parts Oh My....

I wouldn't worry about it. They are still fairly young, but maybe now would be a good time to let them know that their privates are private and that they have to undress when they're alone in the bathroom from now on. Have them get changed in the bathroom so they're not parading around nakes, or get them some bathrobes and have them get dressed in their rooms.

In the movie "Waiting" there is a whole ridiculous scenario of grown men doing things like this. So no, they aren't screwed up. It's probably just time to work on some modesty. GL Momma!

they're siblings, & siblings see more than most kids.

that said, yes, it's time for some boundaries & privacy limitations.

when they start having sleepovers, the other families won't get it. :)

HAHA!! That's so funny... I think being open with each other is great, and they will carry that through adulthood, and be best friends. Its innocent and fun, and they are better for it. We should be able to laugh at ourselves, far too many people take sex & private parts FAR, FAR too seriously. When they are old enough, they will want to be private, so they will, but for now, I say just laugh with them (while gently reminding them that they can't act that way at other people's houses, lol). No reason not to.

They sound like great kids to me and I applaud your family for not being uptight about nudity! It's no big deal. We have good friends in Alaska who all grew up in a tiny cabin (their parents were definitely a bit "hippy") and their family and 2 other families all lived near each other. They all don't really care about nudity...the only bath they had was heating up water on the stove and bathing in a little metal tub in the middle of the room or taking a sauna together. We became good friends with these families -they are all great people and are some of the expert mountain climbers in our country! Anyway, we have taken many saunas with them out at their family cabin (no one lives there now) and their dad walks around nude. The kids and adults all swim nude. None of these people are messed up or are weird about sexuality or anything - they are all perfectly normal, very productive and amazing people. Anyway, my mom did not really hide herself when she dressed/undressed but besides that my family was not like this! I think I have learned that there is nothing wrong with nudity and our bodies. Maybe tell your son he should keep it a little more private as he gets older. Funny! Your kids crack me up!

Thanks for giving me a great laugh! "Ok it does look like a butt". My husband is the only male in our house, I guess I will have to ask him so I can see what you were talking about.
I grew up in Holland with 1 bathroom and we had an open door policy. If dad needed to pee while I was in the shower or vice versa we all just came in.
Even when my parents visited when I was married, my mom and dad could come in the bathroom while I was naked or vice versa, no big deal. My husband found it a little odd.
Hubby started wearing boxer shorts to bed when the girls were toddlers and started to get very interested in what that "thing" was, like grabbing it.
So I think if you are cool with it, then they will be, and all is well. I personally think it is great that brother and sister are so cool with eachother that they can joke like you described. Just think how comfortable they will both be with the opposite sex when they are older and want to get "closer" to their girlfriend or boyfriend minus all the akwardness and with some silliness. I think it can only be good to have this kind of openness, but then I was brought up that way too (minus the junk molding by brother and dad, lol!)

I just sprayed Dt Pepsi all over my keyboard, my coworkers are staring at me, and YOU have a FUNNY story to hold over their heads for the rest of their lives! I can hear you now "You WILL be home f rom your date at 11 young man or I will tell your girlfriend about the time...."

This is what boys do! It just is!

The only boundaries I would feel compelled to remind them of is that this is something they can do and talk about at home when it is just the family. This is not something we do anywhere else (well, maybe a hotel room on a family vacation) or when we have guests over.

I agree with Nikki G. This is something we worry waaaaaay too much about. Obviously it's important for them to understand that other people shouldn't touch their private parts or do anything to make them feel uncomfortable. Other than that, they will let you know when they need more privacy.

SO normal.

My personal favorite was "Darth Vader" complete with imperial death march.

lol! I'm sorry, I'm reading this just cracking up, lol! My 6 year old daughter and 4 year old son still take showers together. We have no problem with nudity in our home. My husband is cautious around our daughter though and makes sure he is always covered up, but me and the kids have no worries. My son will put it between his legs and say "hey, I look like a girl!", or he will squish it in and call it a belly button, lol! SO funny, but I try not to laugh about it in front of him. Boys, they think they have a built in toy or something, lol!

First of all, these are a boys first play things. I mean God created them with an attatched water gun. They are literally born with a toy! It's normal and every kid does it.

My kids are close together in age (13 months also) and a boy and a girl. My daughter is the one that feels compelled to completely strip everytime she has to pee or go through one of her 4 wardrobe changes during the day. We have started doing the modesty thing with her because she has no compunction about doing it when company is present and in any room of the house she happens to be in. Lila is playing with her doll house in the corner of the living room, has to pee and just stands up and starts taking off her shirt (yup, the shirt, too) and pants or she runs into the room naked with a new dress or shorts in her hand yelling she wants to wear these now.

They don't care, so there isn't any trauma, but it might be time to introduce privacy and when it's appropriate to ask for it and give it to others.

dear me.. well that was hilarious. We are casual as well but my kids are a bit younger. I think once they hit a certain age, it will be time to be a little more modest. We had some problems with our oldest when she went to give dad a hug and got him in the cahojnes. He screamed "AH my BALLS" so after that when she would talk about her dad occasionally she would say Oz Balls. We figured out later she was describing my husbands balls. LOL that got cleared up after as soon as possible. My daughters are 5 and 2 now, they have there little brother who is one. He LOVES to run naked and he is always after the junk... sometimes I cringe at the way he goes after that poor thing. MY!!! They call it fire hose, wee wee, water putter (my 2 year old), and boy snake. They often ask if he looks like dad down there. We try to keep it real. Its hard. They are allowed to see us for the most part naked as long as its just getting dressed, but lately the oldest is commenting on my lack of dieting and I am getting dressed in the bathroom more often grrrrr!!! Not screwed up, just not like everyone else I would say!!! they def are comfortable with there bodies in a non gross or sexual way. Makes for more confident kids IMO.

It's time for your kids to take their own showers.

No, they aren't screwed up!! However, they need to start understanding privacy and boundaries. That isn't going to be done by having joint showering time.

thanks for the great laugh... we catch our 4 yr old doing stuff like that lol

I don't think its a big deal right now.. but soon ( with in the next year for sure) I would start setting up the boundries.

Well, yeah, it's normal for boys to mold his "junk" into most anything it will let them. So glad we can't do that with ours LOL!! And since he has no shame or embarrassment about it yet, it's a given that if he and his sister are naked in front of each other, that he is going to do it in front of her.

However, it's time to separate the "neked butts". If you separate them now, they may not remember that they did it. If you let them wait until they start to realize that they are embarrassed, this stuff will stay with them for the rest of their lives.

No more back to back showers or baths like this. Pretend that they are teens in your mind and separate them accordingly. Don't make a big deal out of it in front of them, but just say they need their privacy, and make privacy the important word about this.

That way he can make a butt of his junk in front of the mirror all by himself! (So funny!)

Dawn

I don't think that is screwed up BUT just make sure they know to not talk about it (and him show off) in front of other people.

haha! hilarious. we are sort of similar in our family, but after a certain age, I think there needs to be some sort of privacy. Most of my friends kids naturally started to want more privacy around the age of 7 or 8. I wouldn't worry yet, but you don't want your son or daughter being so casual with kids at school or in other settings. Not all children's sexual curiosity comes from a good place, and I wouldn't want my kids ending up in a siituation that was not so great...