My sister and I both received gifts from our father for christmas and for our children from him! She asked what I got and I showed her! She got one item that was more expensive then anything I got! Yet she called him telling him he needed to buy her the pants I got! He called me upset and angry because he felt like she wa demanding something! He helps her pay bills throughout the year and I never ask for anything! Now my sister wants me to send him a picture of what I got so he can get her the same thing! I got my gift when I flew out to see him and I brought hers back with me! How do I handle this situation?
Are these "pants" larger than a size 6X?
If so, your sister is acting like an entitled spoiled brat.
DO NOTHING.
Your sister needs to grow up. And she'll have to do that on her own.
Maybe she'll start when daddy stops paying her bills?
Wow, you tell your sister to shove off & grow up. Tell your dad what he should already know which is your sister is clearly a spoiled brat & it has nothing to do with you.
Give her the pants-and tell her to grow into them.
Oh my lord! Don't send the picture. Don't get involved. If anything, tell her to grow up. Her father should stop enabling her at this point too.
If I were you, I'd stay out of it. Your dad was upset and angry because your sister IS demanding something, which is very rude and tacky on her part. Especially if he helps her so much through the year. Don't send the picture to your dad. He needs to tell her that she can save up and buy the pants herself. If she complains to you about it, tell her the same thing.
Wow she sounds like a piece of work.
Your father needs to handle this by saying, "you get what you get and if you want the other pants, buy them yourself."
Or, "I will be happy to purchase the pants as soon as you can go an entire year with out our financial help. I am tapped out. "
J., YOU stay out of it. She does not have any right to start this drama.
Boy is she childish or what. Please don't give into her whims. Your Dad did the best he could and if she can't see that then she doesn't deserve even what she got. Let it go.
I was a preschool teacher's assistant for a little over a year (four year olds). The class rule was "you get what you get and you don't throw a fit." Apparently your sister never learned that, nor how to be grateful. Problem is, your dad needs to tell her that. I liked the comment "Give her the pants and tell her to grow into them."
My story is my mother gave me trash for Christmas one year (yes, trash) and gave my older sister $200 plus other gifts. My mom thought it was a big joke. After that my sister had to watch my mother to make sure she gave something gift-like--and we were adults when this happened! Mom's excuse was that my sister,who isn't married and lived closer, did a lot of things for her, forgetting that I lived over 8 hours away and am married. I didn't say anything, but I didn't thank her for the trash, either.
Hi, J.:
Tell your sister "NO." Tell your father that he needs to tell his
other daughter how he feels about her being demanding, not you.
It's called boundary setting.
Good luck.
D.
I'm sorry, are you really asking this question seriously? First, your father should know better than to spend an unequal amount of money on either of his daughters. All parents should know that, no brainer. But you should tell your sister flat out she's behaving in a childish and incredibly selfish way. The season is about giving not getting and honestly, I wouldn't bother with much more than a "grow up" response. Good luck.
She is being selfish and if your father won't call her on it, then you should. I would tell her flat out, "Dad helps you financially throughout the year and you got a more expensive gift than I did, are you REALLY going to hit him up for a pair of pants? Are you so selfish that you have to ruin Christmas for everyone?" Enough said. The spoiled brat needs to be cut off!
