I know lately my hubby has been more greatful and understand of what I have had to do over the last few years... he is ready to go back to his role, but can't for another 5 months.
You see in the end of November through the beginning of December I have a week and a half that I had mini strokes or seizure (they aren't 100% sure which - each doctor tells me something else) plus on Nov 27th I fell in a parking lot while tring to get into the ER to get checked, hit my head which cause my brain to bleed since I was on blood thinners to prevent postpartum blood clots... I was taken off the blood thinners when my brain bleeds started to protect my from mass bleeding & a week later the found a large bloodclot in my left shoulder about 1 in from my heart & 2 in my brain.
That being said - hubby has been forced to take over for me... he has to wake-up early in the morning, take the kids to school, pick-up the 4 yr old at 11 am, then go back to pick-up the other 2 at 2:15, go get them when they are sick, drive me to any store I need to shop at, take us to doctor appointments since I can't drive. He also had to do all the laundry, cooking, cleaning, and take care of the 2 little babies (1 wk old & 18 mo old when it all happened) when I was in the hospital & for the first 2 weeks I was home. He now sees everything I have to do from day to day, but it really hasn't changed him understanding where I am coming from.
And although all I could do for 2 weeks after coming home was sleep in, watch TV or mess around on the computer as he likes to do all the time... it didn't change anything as to seeing things from his view. Actually all it has done is make me want my life back even more... I miss driving the kids to and from school, I miss being able to stop at the dollar store by the school to get the bath soap when I want, I miss not having my quite time while driving to a doctors appointment - but most of all I hate having to ask for help all the time... I just want to be independant again. And he really doesn't understand that - personnaly changing roles in our house has caused more issues then have helped!