My cat was fine with my daughter until she started to crawl, then she started peeing EVERYWHERE in the house. She would go next to the baby and look at me, then poop on the carpet. Definitely a message. I tried for six months to get her to stop, but finally was told by the vet that she probably would never stop so we had to get rid of her. I still miss her, but having a child crawling and puddles and poop all over the place was getting hard. Here's the stuff I tried -- I took her to the vet first to make sure she wasn't sick. He gave me some advice, but told me that he had 3 cats and they often used his bed as a litter box. I tried putting a litter box in several rooms, esp by the front door which was her favorite spot. She would go next to it. I got an expensive plug-in with pheromones that guaranteed that a cat would not mess within 50 feet of it. She continued to go right next to it. This cat was already fixed, but maybe getting him fixed would help. I know it's heartbreaking to have to consider getting rid of the cat. I still miss my Maddie cat.