When I got home from work Friday my kindergartener told me that a boy on the bus showed his privates to him, as he pointed down there. I know that high school and elementary ride together on the bus. I really hope it was not a high school that did this.
We attempted to call transportation that afternoon, but got no answer. I did call this morning, and they stated they would get back with me. When I do speak to someone I am going to ask the transportation department if there anyway that my child can ride up front on the bus, so the driver can have a little more attention to my 5 yr old. We told our child that we are very happy he told us. That it is not right for someone to do that, and that he should NEVER do that either.
My child has behavior issues, do you mama's think that since he was exposed to that type behavior he may try do this SAME THING?
I have always told my children, you don't do that, and you tell mommy or daddy if someone does. He did tell us. So....
I forgot to mention that I did share this with the school. They have sent the information to the school counselor. They were aware of the incident.
Update: I called transportation 7:45 am, by 11:30 am I heard nothing back. So I e-mailed my sons teacher and principal. The teacher got back with me, asked my son how the bus ride was, he said good. He made no indication he remembered anything to the teacher. The principal emailed me back that it was a child from her school, so no hs student. The kindergaten teacher advised us to contact the school councelor. I found out so much from her. She said it was a older student who told the bus driver, the other childs (a 1st grader) parents were spoken to. Basically watch for our childs sleeping and eating habits. Ect. I have only noticed him beign more clingly, wanting to be held on the couch. SO I am. I think my son will be ok, I just pray he does not thing that is ok, and do it to someone, because he saw it done by another.
I think at 5, since you've explained it to him, he'll know better himself.
I find that really odd that Kindergarten kids and high school students ride the same bus though!
It sounds like he has been listening to you or he wouldn't have told. I think you're good on that part. I don't think they let littles ride with bigs when they bus together. They usually seperate the age groups by school or grade. I would continue trying to talk to someone in charge though. It's time for straight answers.
My two oldest rode the bus with high schoolers. Actually it worked well
because the big ones looked after the little guys. The little ones always
sat in the front of the bus so we never had issues. I would ask that your
child and all little ones ride in the front.
It is very normal for children this age to play "show and tell" with their private areas....but it is something that should be handled and explained as something that is inappropriate.
Anyway, I agree that the age of the child who showed his privates is a concern. If it is a child your son's age, it is much more appropriate and understandable than if it is a child who is older. You have every right to get to the bottom of this and to explain to your son what is appropriate behavior, but do realize that this behavior doesn't make the other child "bad" or a "bad influence" on your child, because if the child is 5/6 this is considered normal behavior.
Also, just because a child sees something or is exposed to something doesn't mean the child will follow suit.....You've explained the situation to him and deemed it inappropriate behavior...You did what you should have....Relax....
When I was growing up there was only one school bus for K-12, since we had <30 kids to a grade and we all went to the same building :-) The youngest always sat in front and the oldest in back.
I would want to identify the age of the boy who did this. The situation is very different, IMO, based on the age. Similar age, not a big deal. Much older, a much bigger deal. I think I would also talk with the school principal, not just the transportation people.
What kind of behavior issues does your son have? Are they diagnosed behavior issues or typical age behavioral issues? I'm glad your son told you what happened, but I would definitely be investigating this a lot further.
I too would be upset...
In our school district Head Start and Kindergarteners MUST ride in the first 3 rows of the bus...or more if that's how many kids they have.
our schools are NOT mixed/segregated - that would kinda bother me...Jr High and High Schoolers talk about things I wouldn't want my elementary school kids to hear...
GOOD LUCK!!!
I too find it strange that they would put kindergarteners with HS students - but I would INSIST that your kid sit in the front seat every day. You are the parent, you make the decisions.
Good luck. And be sure to continue to tell your son what a good job he did telling you and how he can come to you with maything and everything. And mention how wrong that other boy was and how no one (adults or children) should EVER show their privates to anyone.
I would take this far beyond calling the bus garage and call the school principal. This needs to be handled by them as well. Can your son identify the student so that the school can discipline him as well?
Okay... that boy that did that... has to be, reprimanded.
Hopefully, your son can identify him.
Although, older kids, can and do lie. Or blame the younger kid.
So, be prepared for that.
I would also be calling the school and telling them about this incident! They need to know and the bus driver needs to know that this is going on. The other boys parents need to know this as well. Be persisent about this as you don't want this to happen again or to someone else.
No, he won't try to do the same thing. You've told him it's not appropriate. You also told him to tell and he did. However, it is normal for kids this age to do this sort of thing. I think you've handled this well and suggest you can relax,
I would want to know the age of the boy who did this. Can your son describe the boy?
The school was aware of the incident prior to you calling them & they didn't contact you?I would be irrate that simply would not be tolerated with me.I'm glad he did tell you,I hope it wasn't a high schooler either,how weird is that they ride the same bus here where I live it is per school transportation.Riding in the front is a great option or have all the lil kids grouped in front & all the big kids grouped in the back.
Yes, it's how this kind of behavior is started. Be sure and tell him his private area is special and not to be shown to anyone, not even adults he knows. The school transportation system needs to be revamped so that little kids ride up front all the time, all the kids that are in elementary school should be supervised by a teacher on board along with the driver. So if there is a problem the driver is not the only adult.
he could try to do this, but hopfully he wont. My oldest took all his cloths off in the backyard when he was 4. He got dressed and undressed in front of mom and dad all the time and did not think it was a big deal. It was summer and he was hot so he just took it all off and started playing again. I was right there and stoped him right away and got cloths back on him, but.... Kids will be kids. I think it depends on how old the boy was that whiped it out. And why he did it. Maybe the kid was 5 and didn't know any better. I think I would find out what the situation is before getting to excited. My son was in the first grade and dumped a big bottle of water on some kids. The teacher was very mad and we got called in and had to talk with her. When he got talking with the teacher and out son it came out that the other kids had been mean to my son for some time and he finaly had taken enough of it and dumped the water out on them. He told me that he thought it was a better option then hitting. Not saying your son did anything to deserve that, just saying that some times there is a better explanation for what kids do when you get the real story. Good luck!
