I haven't yet read the other answers.
I am grateful every day of my life that I live in a place
where such things are not commonplace or, if they are,
I have not ever experienced them.
I think you should continue to be the reasonable person you are,
and do NOT compromise your values by "playing nice"
with these jerks/hypocrites/big FROGS in small pond.
I think you also should be on very good terms
with your children's teachers to stay in touch
with how things are going in school.
I don't think you need to socialize with the queen bee women.
I'm guessing you previously lived in a place where people
didn't play these kinds of "games",
where people said what they meant and meant what they said.
The stupid frog people will probably not change.
They are used to being however they are.
I'm glad you've found some women to be friendly with.
I believe there are probably other people there
with whom you can have good friendships.
There is no reason for you to have any interactions with ugly frog people.
Don't try to get them to meet you on your level.
And don't sink to their level.
Good luck.
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A couple of ideas I had after reading the other answers.
First, I believe I understood that you mentioned "white and good income"
simply to indicate that whatever the criteria were for these frog people
you believe you meet the apparent one.
I prefer to call them frogs rather than bees.
Bees are pretty; frogs are ugly.
Second . . . and this may be too weird but I'm throwing it out there anyway.
If you have the kind of mirror that opens like a book . . .
not a small compact size mirror but one the size of a paperback book,
you might want to carry it with you and,
when one of these frogs stares at you,
open the mirror so that it reflects her face back to her.
This idea comes from a science fiction novel I read many years ago.