Bedwetting 10 yr.old Boy

Have him sleep in a sleeping bag for easier clean up.... just throw it in the wash, dryer and back on the bed.

No, do not wait. Tell your pediatrician. He/she should recommend you to a pediatric urologist. Your son may have a problem with his bladder. While he's awake he's conscious of his need to go to the bathroom but at night, he's asleep. His body is at rest at that time and he may have no control of his bladder movements.

I have a betwetter as well. He is also 10 yrs old and has ADHD as well as Non-verbal Learning Disability. We have had him in Neurofeedback since the summer to help with attention and anxiety and one of the unexpected results has been he no longer wets his bed! I know neurofeedback can impact lots of things like migraines, compulsive disorders, smoking etc. There may be an area of the brain to target that helps with this issue. So you might want to ask a Dr. or psych about it - it is expensive though. just wanted to share this!

Hi R.- Has your son been evaluated by a urologist? Perhaps he has kidney reflux and therefore his bladder may not empty completely. Often these kids get recurrent bladder infections too. I'm not an expert but I know this could result in bed wetting. You must rule out possible physical causes before dealing with the possible emotional. It may make you son feel relieved to know there may be a physical cause.

Hi R.,
If you have not discussed this with your son's doctor, I would do so. Bedwetting is considered normal til about age 6. At this point, it could be a medical issue and a referral to a pediatric urologist could be helpful. But for some kids, it is a matter of outgrowing it.
Good luck! I am sorry that your son is going through this.

Hello, R., one of my girls was a serious bedwetter until she was 8; I'd had her evaluated for ADHD anbd checked for medical problems, but there were none. No need for medicine; she outgrew it when she started having more playdates and we took more family vacations. It was probably anxiety with her. Don't rule out any possible medical issues; be sure about that before you give up. And continue your routine with limited liquids, etc. Best wishes to you!

R.:

Have you taken him to a doctor - whether it be his pediatrician or a urologist - to rule out any abnormalities in his urinary tract?

If you have not done so, that is the route I would take. There are medications out there that can help with this issue. My daughter (now 17) has this problem and is on DDAVP and Ditropan for this problem.

DDAVP is either in pill form or a inhalant (nasal spray) form. It is very effective in treating nightime enuresis.

I would like to tell you that he may grow out of this - but he could also have a problem - that is why I suggest he get checked out.

Also - not that I'm insinuating anything - but could this be a psychological problem? I noticed that my daughter's problem started after her father and I separated and eventually divorced. And yes - now that she's 17 still has this problem (we've also found out she is ADD/Bipolar - which has been found to be a direct link to bedwetting) .. NOT that I'm saying your son is!! Just something to look out for I guess.

My son - when he was younger would wet his pants during the day - come to find out he had a damaged left kidney - so here are some of the things I did to help him out -

Buy your son a watch with an alarm - show him how to set the alarm to go off every two hours - and make sure he goes to the bathroom - even during school. The school should cooperate with this - even if you have to get a doctor's note. This gets him in the habit of going to the bathroom even when there isn't an urge to go.

Eliminate all fluids after 5 or 6pm. NOTHING to eat or drink after then - eating promotes drinking.. and drinking promotes bedwetting.

I don't believe in getting him up during the nite because that only leads to bigger problems with lack of sleep. As for the 'gizmos and gadgets' you refer to - I personally didn't like them. I've used them with my daughter when she was your son's age - and they did no good but wake up the rest of the house while she slept through the ear piercing alarm .. and then the 'acidity' from her urine eventually ate through the damn alarm and I wasted 75 bucks!!

Before bed - it may be a bit embarrassing - but have him SIT on the toilet and try to go - have him sit there for about 3-5 minutes to allow his 'system' to relax and get to go. NO one would know he's sitting - he's the only one in the bathroom! Let him read a book .. or do a word find puzzle.. or play his gameboy (if he has one) while sitting there to get his mind off of 'going'.

Also - when/if he does have an accident - reassure him that its 'okay' and we'll try again - I truly understand the frustration that goes along with trying everything - don't make a big deal out of it.. though I would make a 'private' big deal out of him NOT having an accident!! When my daughter didn't have an accident I was practically jumping for joy!!!!

Good luck!!

I would look into his diet (after ruling out other possible medical problems). I know MANY people who have resolved enuresis (bed wetting) by eliminating a dietary irritant. Keep a diary of his dry nights and try to see if there's something different about those days. If there's a food that he absolutely has to have (for example dairy/cheese/milk), consider totally eliminating it from his diet for a period of 6-8 weeks to see if his bedwetting stops.

Other things that are common causes of enuresis are magnesium (or other mineral) deficiency, constipation, chemical sensitivities, UTIs and emotional stressors among others.

make sure that it's not physical. make an appt. with a pediatric nephologist...kidney specialist or a urologist to start.

have you seen a doctor and explained the severity. there is a good chance that something medical may be going on that will need to be addressed. good luck

R.,

I went through the same thing with my son on and off until he was 12. We tried all of the same things as you and nothing worked. You mentioned that your brother also had the same problem, they say it is hereditary. Unfortunately it is something they just have to grow out of. I purchased waterproof crib mats so I wouldn't have to change sheets every night and that was a big help. My son was also a very deep sleeper the doctor said that was a big part of the problem. His body just has to catch up with his brain and then he should grow out of it. Good luck!!

R.,
My son will be 8 on Tuesday, and he pees like a race horse at night. In August we took him to a urologist and it has worked wonders. He wears a watch al day, everyday, that alerts him to use the bathroom every 2 hrs and at night, he take 2 pills (going to 3) to help him not wet at night. He wears good nights, has 4 hospital pads on his bed and he can still pee through everything. Give the urologist a shot. It's better then nothing. Good luck.
J.

I have known men in my family who have said that they had the similar problem as your son and they finally outgrew the problem. I would get covers that wrap the mattress all around and zips up and that way it'll be a protective shield for the mattress.
He will out grow it eventually, but I don't know of anything else as you mentioned to have done with no drinking and going to bathroom and so forth.
I will pray for you to receive Wisdom from Jesus if you ask Him. Let us know what happens.

hylands bedwetting tablets. all natural remedy. maybe you have heard of their teething tablets? worked like a champ for us.

Sorry but YES you will have to wait for him to grow out of it. There is a washable bed pad that are very absorbanant. I wasn't sure if you had those or disposible but the washable ones are very large. I use them when the kids are sick and when I had my babies. They work great! A.