Bed Rest Til Baby Is Here.

Your husband gets to do the shopping until the baby arrives.
What part of best rest is it that you don't understand? This is what you do for your baby- how could anyone tell you not to go to the party? Well your doctor already did. Why would you put the new baby at risk for a party?
Pay attention to your doctor, k

If you absolutely *have* to go... have someone rent a wheelchair for you for the day. As a matter of fact, your insurance may very well cover it. If they do... keep it for the duration... BUT someone else has to push you around in it AND you need to use it as little as possible.

As far as groceries... have them delivered. It's been awhile since I lived in FL, but I'm sure that there are stores in the area that do. AmazonFresh may even deliver in your area.

I feel for you. I was on modified bed rest for almost my entire pregnancy, and since I am and was an active person, it not only drove me up the *freakin* wall but *other* people said such cruel things (like I should exercise in order to be "healthy" / aka that I was fat and lazy... even though exercise would have killed my baby for sure, and it would have been 50/50 on whether or not I would have followed... depending on how fast I could be gotten to the hospital, and IF they could stop the bleeding) that I would cry for hours (of course hormones played in, but pain is pain). Bedrest for even a DAY when you don't actually feel sick, is torture. But so is losing a baby. Admittedly one is *far* worse than the other, but at least I could only tenuously wrap my mind around my baby dying when I was going stir crazy (crazy is in that phrase for a reason, because we aren't thinking straight)... even though I'd lost several others

Honey, you only have a little over 2 weeks. Prepare to stream a LOT of movies. Play video games. Read and read and read and read. Make phone calls. Tell your sons every day what "good helpers!" they are (even if they're not, the positive encouragement for every little thing they *do* help with will ease tension & get them to help out more).

bed rest is BED REST! unless you have your doctor's ok, you shouldn't be doing anything! Let someone else do the shopping. It sucks about your kid's party, but I definitely wouldn't risk my unborn baby for one party! You could always have a mini-party in your room where your boys can open the present you got them, and have cake before the actual party... or after, and they can tell you all about it... (I know that I sound a little harsh, and I don't mean this in a rude or judgmental way... but IMO you should prioritize your health and the health of your baby before a party...)

Please, please, please E., I don't know you but I have had two emergency c-sections. They are very scary and the complications are very real. The second one the baby and I almost died. Don't turn your planned c-section into an emergency. Please listen to your doctor. Your children will be more upset if something happens to your baby or to you long term. The boys can visit you before or after their birthday and you can give them a gift specially from you when they see you.

My third c-section was planned. I followed my doctor's orders and was on modified bedrest. It meant not going to Disneyworld with my family. It was hard to be in California while my husband and boys played and had a fantastic time for ten days. Friends took them for long playdates and my parents took the boys for sleepovers. But because I listened, I have a healthy and beautiful one year old today and I am healthier than even before the third pregnancy.

So please...think long term. Good luck!

First of all your baby needs MOVEMENT to develop a normal vestibular system. When you are still your baby does not get input to their body and things do not wake up as they should for later development. Since you are already having a C-section there are going to be retained reflexes from that alone. Not being squeezed down the birth canal and wriggling down by itself causes issues later. Move but be reasonable. Rock in a rocker, go on a yoga ball and rock, walk gently, move up/down gently. Be reasonable and be safe but don't deprive your baby of vital movement during the most important time in utero. Movement will help escape Sensory Procesing Disorder.

I know someone that was put on bed rest at 33 weeks. She was terrified about not being able to work, and decided to work from home as much as possible...sitting on her couch with a laptop, getting up and moving around when she got hungry, had to use the phone, or had people come over for work, and basically NOT staying in bed. She lost her baby at 35 weeks. While it was never certain those two weeks were the reason her baby was stillborn, the stress of being worried about things and not staying in bed I am sure did not help.

Make sure you follow your doctor's orders and also make sure your friends and family (especially husband and kids) understand that you are down for the count until 10/12. Your husband needs to do the worrying for you. He needs to step up and do the shopping, take care of the kids, do the chores around the house, worry about the budget...or else arrange for it to get done. The only thing you should be worrying about is making sure you and your baby is okay.

Best wishes.

Bed rest is bed rest and for a reason.
...other people, are giving you hell about it? WHY? For putting your health and baby before a party????
It is either bed rest or you can lose your baby. This is DOCTOR'S orders.
This ain't no vacation and it ain't no cake walk.

That is how it was for my cousin.... NO if and or buts... per her Doctor.
JUST bed rest. For 3 months. THREE months, before her due date.

You could always, form a 'help tree' sort of thing... people taking turns and rotating turns to help you do the basics and errands. Family, friends, any Churches if you belong to one... any help... and of course from your HUSBAND. That is what my cousin did... and EVERYONE who cared about her.... all participated. Family, friends, co-workers, and her Hubby.

For my cousin... who is very naturally hyper and uber active... 3 months of bed rest... was what she was ordered to do. OR lose her baby.
OR the Mom's life can ALSO be put at risk.

all the best,
Susan

I agree that someone else is going to have to worry about the grocery shopping...but for what its worth, I think it is cheaper to shop weekly, then you can shop the ads, or whats on sale....I do it this way and also it gives me more control over what we eat, and what sounds good at the time.

Congrats on the 3rd baby...your lil' person and my oldest son will share a birthday...I can guarantee the time will fly by because I am no where near close to being ready for his B-day yet, YIKES!!

Stay in bed!!!! Have a friend video tape the birthday party. I know it's not the same, but you do not want to compromise you or your baby's health by trying to go. Watch the video with your son when he gets back - little kids love seeing themselves on TV. Pop some popcorn, let him have a "fizzy drink" and some special cupcakes and the two of you have your own little party. And of course, save a few presents for him to open with you!

I was on bedrest for 4 months. It stinks. You feel so helpless and useless, but please remind yourself that there is a reason for it. Ask your parents, inlaws or friends to grocery shop for you. Make a list from the weekly flyers of your favorite store, take out cash from the bank and let them shop! Make use of your crock pot - your husband can load it up with food for dinner each morning and then dinner is ready by the time he's home. Plan out your meals for each night in advance, and that saves a lot of prep time and headache for whomever is doing the cooking. I totally recommend the couponing website: www.southernsavers.com. I save about 45-60% each month on my grocery bill using this site. (Use to spend $500+ per month on groceries and household supplies, now it's about $250-300!)

Look at the next 2-3 weeks as a chance to really rest up. You'll need it with a new baby and 2 boys! Pamper yourself - ask a friend to give you a manicure/pedicure or facial. Read some gossip magazines that you never have time for usually for a few good laughs. The time will fly by before you know it and you'll be holding that new bundle of joy.

Thinking of you and wishing you luck!

Buy in bulk, Costco accepts manufacturer's coupons so you can have the best of both - bulk and coupons. Meal planning is very important and helps to cut costs and makes cooking easier. You can search alot of meal ideas online- you got time :)

I loooove the idea of watching the party via video after with your sons. Sounds like they would enjoy that very much! Since you have time on your hands. You might be able to make them something that they can give to them at the party. Maybe a t-shirt with a picture of you and each of them? Not sure how old they are, for my son when he turned 9, I made him a scrapbook/journal with pictures of him from baby on up and pictures of me and him and him a and his little brothers/sister. He loved it. Something personal that lets them know how much you love them even though you can't be there!

Rest up and remember to listen to your body. I went into early labor with my twins for trying to keep up with housework, older son etc Although they are fine thank god it is not worth the extra worries, trips to ICU etc. and after it happens you realize what a dumba** you were for putting that ahead of your baby's well being. (well thats how I felt lol) Listen to your body and your doctor! Stay in bed it will be well worth it.