"Beautiful" Article Follow-up Question

I have benefitted as far as getting things free sometimes or some extra attention. I wouldn't call them 'hardships' but I've faced some cattiness and jealously sometimes too.
But the things this woman was describing is rediculous. It is her arrogance that people find so repulsive. Add to it on top of that, that she is not considered 'beautiful' by most standards and that's why people are outraged.
She's delusional that she thinks the response only proves her point when it is she who is missing the whole point.

I am not sure really, I assume sometimes that my size coupled with my personality has run a few off or possibly caused jealousy or friction - but I can only assume and not say for sure because I do not ask people why they do not like me I just move on.

I have had my nights of free drinks from men and the cold shoulder from women at the bar - guessing my looks drew them in and personality kept them there, but again I can never assume people's motives - esp in a bar!

I have modeled a lot since I was young, 49 now. I pass for early 30's. I still model and I'm in great shape.

I volunteer a lot for big public events and I get some prime spots for that.

Perks, oh yes. I have had major perks as far as my placement in my volunteer spot close to media, etc.

The 1 thing that gets me though. ... Is that I get a prime spot at leading golf tourney, etc and it's funny to me when I am completely underestimated. It is like they think a model or model like volunteering is not business wise.

I go on business trips with hubby and other big wigs are spilling their guts trying to impress me at casual functions, etc ( all while thinking I have no brain) and then BAM they don't realize I run the freaking company and they just gave me pricing info for the next 6onths!

I love it. Being underestimated is positive as long as you have your head in the right place and retain information!! I never "play" anyone because that's not me but I do listen, don't talk much and ask questions.

For me... Major benefit in running a multimillion company. Conferences are a way to figurd our who's real and who is not. I am who I am 24/7 .

I would consider myself to be pretty, but not pretty enough to have to wonder if I was being seen only for that. I used to work where my looks were what i was hired forBut honestly do think I am beautiful on the inside though. I do think I make more genuine relationships because of that.

I've had plenty of perks. I have my defects, such being a size 16 now, but I'm a big busted, blue eyed, blond in Texas! I still get alot of favor, but when I was young and beautiful it was disgusting what people would offer.

I am not materialistic. I would never purposefully take advantage of someones kindness but I have had offers to pay my bills, buy me things, detail my car, mow my lawn, I get in free to a lot of places, free tickets to sporting events, concerts. It's fun being a girl!!!

The downside I've had is other women not trusting me near thier men. I'm married now, but when I was single, I lost all my married friends. I have a carved in stone rule never to mess with anothers girls man. I've never even considered messing with someone I know's man, much less one of my friends. But it never fails, my female aquaintences always end up giving me the evil eye. I go so far out of my way not to do anything innapropriate. I don't laugh at thier jokes (got in trouble for that once) I don't make eye contact ( got in trouble for that once) I don't wear anything form fitting in mixed company (got in trouble for that once, even though I was on a date and had my own man with me) lol

I'm not saying I'm gorgeous, I'm not. Like I said - size 16! That further proves my point. You don't have to be a bombshell to get good and bad reactions to your appearance.

I have always been told I am beautiful, even as a child. I don't really think of myself in that light. I think brains are far more important. I am in the IT profession- a place where beauty gets you nowhere and can work against you. For some reason, people tend to think that beauty makes you stupid and shallow. I hate that stereotype. I had to work extra hard to get where I am because of my looks. I think I had a harder time proving myself where others don't necessarily have to.
I always say I make a horrible first impression. People see the outside and make judgements. I have struggled with this my whole life.
As far as benefit go? I have gotten pulled over at least two dozen times. I have only ever gotten 1 ticket. Not sure if my looks had anything to do with that- although the 1 ticket was a female officer. lol

I don't know that I am beautiful or that this was a real hardship, but it caused me not to be taken seriously sometimes as a mechanical engineer. But I was a damn good one!

While I am not particularly attractive or unattractive, my appearance has caused people to underestimate me. Maybe it's my youth in my industry, but I'm often mistaken for the assistant and not the CEO. Perhaps people are just not used to a younger (I'm not even that young now) woman being in charge.

I've always attracted favor. The dogs I've dated showed me their gentle sides. I always attributed it to my sweet and giving spirit. I've always just tried to love and smile. When someone stops me and tells me that I am beautiful (seriously, it used to happen ALL THE TIME), I would smile and say thank you and then thank my God-source for shining through me and brightening someone else's moment. Men were open to it. Most of the women I encountered were leery of it or thought that I was being fake. It annoyed my best friend when I found out that she and my "guy" had slept together some years before behind my back and I was willing to forgive and move forward, the three of us. She always teased me about being too sweet. (I didn't get hardcore until I started having to fight for certain things.) When I greet people with kindness, women still treat it like it's phony.

I used to be physically beautiful. I didn't flaunt it, but I used to be known as "the body" (big boobs, tiny waist, flat tummy with six-pack abs, round hips, round butt but not too round, great legs, perfect feet...), and my smile is bright, and men always wanted to give me money (from the time I was a baby). I was joking with my husband the other night--in response to the article--that I sometimes wish I had accepted some of the larger gifts, especially before I settled into being married to a not-so-rich man.

Once I was working at a temporary assignment in a male-dominated environment. I reported to the only other woman there, and she told me that she'd picked me out of the bunch following my interview because she thought that I would be a perfect fit. I did all that was asked and requested more, and she was talking to be about hiring me on full time. She told me that she appreciated my attitude and work ethic. Almost two weeks in, I wore my hair down (just to my shoulder blades). I had been pinning it up. The morning after, I got a call on my way in that I needn't show up for work. When I asked why, I learned that she had told the agency that I wasn't proactive and didn't have a good work ethic. I attributed it to Queen Bee needing to stay on top. I couldn't figure out what else it could be. Was my hair too shiny and healthy for her? Was I too happy with my life? In fact, she even lied and said that I didn't do something that I did do. Maybe she was catching hell for something and had to blame the new girl. I'll never know. What I do know is that I can relate to the women who say that other women hold their looks against them. I don't dwell on it, though. I don't necessarily see what they see, anyway, so....

Well, I've had both.

I once had a boss that hated me. I mean HATED. This was a new experience for me, in all of my previous jobs I was always one of the top employees I always worked hard but it was never enough. I just assumed she needed a whipping boy, and since her last whipping boy was fired, she moved on to me.

Come to find out she told the secretary that she usually didn't hire girls who had bigger boobs than she did. At the time I was only a B cup! I guess that explained why all the other girls in the office were completely flat chested. That was the only time that I had a boss say I was a bad employee, and I mostly worked for women. Just that one had the hang up.

I did get hired on at Chuck E Cheese when I was a teenager, and after I had been there for a while, it was admitted to me that part of the reason I was hired was because of my looks. That explained a lot too, almost all of the people who worked there were attractive, boys and girls.

Those are the only two I can think of.

Personally, I think you'd be hard pressed find a woman alive who hasn't had an unwelcome comment, a case of stereotyping, discrimination on some level (good or bad), etc.....
What I do think you would also find are women that don't mind it, or knowingly use their appearance, etc. to their advantage. I also think there are probably women (and men!) who are completely oblivious that this is even happening at all!

You know...I'm no super model. I'm small, have boobs, and am somewhat attractive. Some days, more then others.That's how I see myself.

It's a bit insulting when people comment that I'm smart, like it's some sort of miracle. Or, being underestimated. Which, as it turns out, really is a motivational tool. And when some women asked if I was anorexic after I had my baby. Other then that, I've gotten out of some speeding tickets, some attention (That frankly, is awkward. Older men always hit on me. Like, my father's age...and I look younger then I am. Creeps!!) and snagged a husband who was pretty sought after :) Of course, it was ME that kept him around...not my various outer parts.

I am not at all handsome, but I look a lot better from the front than the side. My little brother had the best of both worlds. He was handsome and very intelligent. I studied and struggled to get B's, while he could sleep through class and get A's. I cannot tell you the number of stories he told me about him going to his teachers and managed to "talk" them from a D to an A. I read one of his "term papers" that was just awful, but the teacher had used white out to cover up a D+ and made it into an A-. I have seen the "beautiful" rise to the top of the ladder on their looks, not expertise or talent. I've seen it in college and in the work place.

But that's life. I have heard the term "trophy wife" and see how some women would qualitfy for that term on the outside. But to me the inside is as important or more important than the outside.

I was severly disappointed to click on the names of those that responded and found only 3 had profile pictures of themselves. I really was curious to see pictures of the people that responded. Why? Like I said I enjoy beauty and was curious. I bought a home where I could watch the sunset and have enjoyed many beautiful sunsets over the years.

Good luck to you and yours.

I supposed I could've benefitted from my looks but I chose not to since my teens. I always turned down 'free' stuff given to me. I worry too much about what I would be expected to give in return. E.g. I took my car in for service and it was 'on the house'. I paid anyway.
Remember the good old days when gas station had 'full service' and 'self-serve'? I would pull up to the self-serve and the attendant would come running out to help anyway. My senior year in high school, a guy handed me the keys to a brand new BMW on my birthday. He said, "It's yours. All I ask is you go out with me." He wasn't some creepy old man either, he was 18 as well. The crazy thing was this guy was HOT. I would've dated him without the BMW. Unfortunately, I had to turn him down since he thought he could buy me.
Women (and men) generally think a beautiful women is shallow and spoilt and so their initial reaction is unfriendly. Once they get to know you and find you are not, the cattiness usually goes away. Would I consider it a hardship? No, it's just life. We all have our issues.
I think that woman who wrote the article was delusional and hence way off base. I see less cattiness from older women because they are more mature and self confident.
And what's the deal with the chocolate? I'm a chocoholic and it's never affected me negatively in anyway. All things in moderation of course.