Baby Cries Whenever I Leave Her

It's simple separation anxiety. It's normal and she will eventually come to terms with it on her own.

Find something that comforts her... music, a sing along video, a teddy bear or something that quiets her. You have to just let her cry after that, she will learn soon enough or just cry herself to sleep. I used the video with a song on it "My Mommy Comes Back"...It was soothing and entertaining and my kids are grown now but they always remember that song and whenever they were little, I would always sing that as I left. This reminded them that I love them and will always come back! Good Luck!

She is definitely having separating anxiety. Both of my children did that. Actually, my 10 month old daughter has hit separating anxiety HARD. When I went back to work after having our son he had separating anxiety but eventually got over it and learned he would be alright with someone else for a while. I think the separating anxiety screaming is harder on mommy than the baby. You just need to stay strong and try not to think about it. Know that your baby is fine and that they should eventually get over it.

I stopped working after we had our daughter so she's been with me pretty much every day for the 10 months of her life. When I leave her with the babysitter, or even give her to a friend and walk out of sight, she starts screaming. However, after a short period of time she stops screaming and is completely fine unless she catches a glimpse of me... then she starts screaming all over again.

Just stand strong momma! Blessings.

P.S. Maybe find her a comforting favorite toy... OR, give her something that has your scent strongly on it. Maybe sleep in a t-shirt at night and give that to her when you drop her off so she can still smell you and get comfort.

It's a tough call, but is it possible you can postpone going back to work for several more months? I recall my children's pediatrician saying that somewhere between 4 and 7 months a child goes through seperation anxiety. It's important for the baby to feel that you're around. I hope you come to a good conclusion. Best of luck

Sorry you have to go through this. Babies are mostly very adaptable. She will get used to you leaving. I would suggest setting up a special routine for leaving her with the sitter and maybe that will help. Babies like routines. Try and have the sitter spend time with her while you are there before you start working.
Try not to worry she will not be damaged by crying or you going to work millions of women do it. Please don't pay attention to other people who say you should stay at home! You have made a very hard choice and you should do what is best for your whole family and yourself. I loved going to work a few times a week to get me out of the house. Do not let people make you feel bad about that.

Aw. My advice is that you don't leave her. She needs you. She's a baby.

In addition to some advice below, make sure the sitter is aware of her seperation anxiety and that she may be a little "high maintenance" the first few days. I say that because if she is caring for more than one child, it could be disruptive to the flow and preparation would be helpful for the sitter.

Maybe you can try to be together with babysitter and your baby for a few days to ease the transition if you haven't already? I did this with my son, albeit for a few months before going back to work, starting when he was 5 months, with bootcamp the last week with her taking full on care of him while I stood in the background. He was definitely comfortable with her at that point although he had separation anxiety when he was 9-11 months but would cry for just a few minutes after I departed. Good luck!

I 'll be going back to work soon too just hope the babysitter doesn't mind a lot of crying and after about a week she'll get over it babys are more adjustable then u think especially at that age. It would be nice if the babysitter can bring her for a visit to u too so the baby realizes your still near by.