C.A.
Hi!
Congratulations! How exciting! I can totally relate. I had the same problem and went bananas trying to find something just right. After all that, I bought inexpensive,plain bedding from ebay, went to the fabric store and found the exact pattern and color I had envisioned and brought it all to the cleaners to have them recover everything. It was much less expensive than if I had bought it from one of the fancy bedding places, it was exactly what I had wanted and kind of fun that it's one of a kind!
Hope this helps and happy shopping!