E.C.
A seasoned mom and gma told me before I had kids not to read books,but to go with my instincts. That has proved useful. But I had some real holes in my upbringing so I knew my instincts (falling back on what my parents had done) needed some informing. I watched families who had children I wanted my kids to be like and asked those moms' advice. James Stenson's book, "Compass" has been the best for forming my underlying philosophy of raising children. One thing he emphasizes is beginning with the end in mind. The end is my child being an adult who loves others and cares for them, who, if she is married, chooses a good man and has children who are a joy to be around. I am not raising a child, I am raising someone who will be an adult and that takes formation and work on everyone's part.