D.,
God bless you! What a wonderful story you tell, about being first time parents, etc! I'm so happy for you! I, too, have a weight problem and I've been considering the Lapband surgery. I don't have small children at home, so that's not an issue for me - the money is my problem! At any rate, I've had several friends who have had the surgery with mixed results. One friend lost a lot of weight, but didn't change her feelings about food (sort of like Mindy's Mom), so she is currently battling it again. She regained quite a bit of her weight and slipped into depression over it - which, of course, made it harder for her to stick with it. I really think you have to be in a positive place when you make the decision in order for it to be truly successful. I mean, it will HELP you lose the weight, but if your head isn't in the right place, then you'll probably struggle. Another woman I used to work with had the surgery, dropped the weight at a fairly reasonable rate (faster than if she'd done it alone, but not as fast as the bypass), but she exercised and really ate healthy. She's at her perfect weight now and very happy! So, if you use it as a tool and you really have your mind set to lose the weight, I think it's a wonderful plan. I'm afraid I'd be like Mindy's Mom - I'd lose some weight, but then my love for sugar would rear it's ugly head and I'd be sitting in a chair eating candy again! Anyway, best of wishes to you and to your wonderful family. You're an inspiration to others who think 40 is too late for kiddos! God bless! S.