D.A.
Been there done that...with TWINS! Our girls don't do it now at 4 1/2 but did at 3 and for us, after trying a lot of things we finally decided to simply walk away. They did it because they needed attention be it positive of negative and by walking away they had no one to 'fight with' but themselves and that wasn't getting them what they wanted. From there we simply ask 'do we need to go have a talk' which means literally that - we take them out of the situation and talk to them, explaining what is unacceptable about their behavior, and explaining that if it happens again we will leave (the restaurant, for example) and she will get a spanking and go to bed with no video. For us, that works still - taking something away is one other way OR, we didn't think of this sooner, but we started more of a reward system for basic things like TV (noggin was a HUGE morning deal), a video, even one on one time with my husband or myself (we call this special time). Now my husband 'dates' them once a month and they get to get ALL dressed up (princess attire optional and yes, they have done that....he no longer begs me to have them change b/c they beam in the costumes and I DID say 'dressed up', lol!)and he takes them wherever they want to go. Also, for her, her world is changing...again, with the new baby on the way :)