Any One Here Ever Been or Is a Surrogate Mom?

Updated on December 11, 2006
M.S. asks from Sioux City, IA
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I have been a Surrogate Mother twice now and am looking to do a 3rd when I find the right couple. I am hoping to talk to or even meet other women who have done this or is doing this now. There are not very many Surrogate Mothers in my area and it draws alot of attention and questions. When other women ask me about it they ask how to get into it. But......when men are around and find out, the 1st thing they ask is what does it pay? I tell them and they turn to their wife or girlfriend and says "your going to go do that so I can buy this and that.....cars...and other things" like it is ALL about the money and the money is to be theirs not the wife or the girfriends. Are all men this selfish? My husband's father is that way too. Granted it pays good (15k-25k for a 1st timer and 25k-40k for a 2nd+ timer) but it is not just about you "ther Surrogate or Surrogates spouse" it is about making a couple a family. A lot of people see it as child selling but I see it as 2 couples/families helping eachother. Anyone agree with me or is it all about the money?

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I heard from a couple surrogates that i have been speaking with in yahoo already. And yes to all, I do get photos.

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B.

answers from Sioux City on

I am in the process of being a surrogate mother also via traditional surrogacy. Alot of people also think the same when I tell them, that I am in it for money. I know in my heart that I'm not, so I just let it go in one ear and out the other! Do you live in Iowa? I do! I find it more difficult that there aren't many surrogates (like none) around me and find it difficult to relate to anyone close to me because they just don't get it. I would love to meet more people from Iowa who are surrogates that are my age so I have someone more to relate to. Email me sometime I would love to chat! ____@____.com I am 23, married with two children. Thanks!

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C.M.

answers from Sioux City on

I think that what you are doing is awesome..My boyfriend and I are on our second child together, but we also have his and mine which makes five.So it must be difficult to do this sort of thing with children at home, cause they must get rather confused about it. If i didnt have to have repeat c-sections I might even think about it.
as far as the money goes, everything cost money. And your giving these people a part of you, one of your eggs. I think that you are a real angel. good luck on finding you next couple. there are alot of good people out there who want babies but can't produce them, so your giving them a chance of a life time.

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H.H.

answers from Cedar Rapids on

Hello I have never known anyone that is a surrogate mom and I think that what you are doing is wonderful. I have three friends right now that are trying to adopt. One is a wonderful couple who run a daycare and have been trying to get pregnant for many years with no luck. I know this was not your point of posting this message however if you are interested in hearing more about any of these 3 couples please email or call me. ###-###-#### ____@____.com

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D.F.

answers from Iowa City on

Do you get pictures of the babies??

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A.M.

answers from Omaha on

M.,

I have been an Egg Donor 3 times and am preparing to become a Surrogate as well. My favorite website to be is http://www.allaboutsurrogacy.com It has an abundance of information. I know of a couple of other Surrogates here in Omaha.

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K.B.

answers from Billings on

I have not been a surrogate mom but I have a problem in that area. I have some medical problems and was FORSED in to having my tubes tide and I am now married to a wonderful wonderful man and we really want to have a baby together and I don't have much money but am willing to save money. Do you have any Ideas on how we can go about having a baby together without having to spend a ton of money. I mean we really realy want to have a baby please help me. It is a dream of ours that we fear we will never get to accomplish. my e-mail address is ____@____.com

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