ANOTHER Potty Training Dilemma..

I trained both of my kids in training pants in 3 days. you are right. they do not like the feeling of pee running down their legs.. yuck.. my daughter calls pull ups panty diapers. her words not mine.

My daughter showed a bit of interest in the potty. That is when I trained her.. My son had zero interest.. I still trained him.. I thought he was ready so I did it.. took 3 days for each kid.

If you have teh energy right now get the trraining pants and spend 2 or 3 days taining her. if you are too tired from pregnancy wait till you feel better adn the baby is settled in. She is likely to regress when the new baby comes anyway.

Keep in mind.. that for a while after she is 'TRAINED" you are trained.. mom has to take her to the potty every 45-60 mins.. the newly trained child does not recognize the cues "wow.. my bladder is full I should go to the potty" I think I took my daughter to the potty every 60 minutes for 2 weeks.. then 90 minutes.. finally after a while the child will feel that they have to go potty and you will not have to watch the clock.

I don't think she's ready. And remember, even if you are temporarily successful, a new baby in the house could just cause her to regress and you'd be right back where you started. I would wait. When the student is ready, the teacher will appear...and when she is ready to use the toilet consistently, you will not have to train her, coerce her, fight with her, bribe her, or do anything extraordinary. You've got enough on your plate without worrying about this, too! Just focus on a happy family and a good pregnancy.

I think I would potty train when the child is ready, not my MIL!
Seriously, YOU know your child best. From what you've described--she's just not ready yet, IMO.

Put her in the potty training panties and since you know that she does know what she's supposed to do and does recognize before she goes, if she goes in the training pants I would make her sit in them for a few minutes to really instill in her that that's not what she wants to do; that it's uncomfortable; and you are not at her beck and call every time SHE decides she doesn't want to go to the bathroom. Don't let her have the control. She will stop what she's doing and use the bathroom, or she will wait until it convenient for you to change her pants. By the way, make her wash the dirties out in the sink also. This should be her work since it is her decision! Life lesson - suffer the consequences of your decisions.

I'm in a similar dilemma except I don't think my son is as ready as your daughter. I would say don't bother with her until a few months after baby is born. Unless SHE pushes it. It just seems like you hear all the time about kids regressing from being potty trained once baby is born. I don't know what to tell you about her behavior now...sounds frustrating. I would just wait for her to want to do it, and don't listen to your MIL! Easier said than done, I know.
Hang in there, Mama!

I wouldn't do it right now. Kids that have been trained for a really long time will sometimes regress when a new baby comes, so it will likely be a waste of your time to do it right now, especially if she doesn't want to. My daughter was a very bright 2 1/2 year old also when my son was born. I didn't train her until after he was born and she insisted on wearing panties (when he was a month or so old). She trained fairly quickly and was fully trained for several months and then decided that she wasn't going to poop in the potty anymore. It was so frustrating because she hadn't had an accident in MONTHS, so I knew she knew what she was doing. I eventually found an incentive that worked for her and we got it back under control, but it was maddening.

Now, my son is 3 years and 3 months old and I have just potty trained him in the past few weeks. He just flat wanted nothing to do with it, but he is well over 3 and very smart also, just strong willed and lazy (why stop to go potty when Mom will keep cleaning me up?). I wanted him to start preschool and none of the schools here would take a 3 year old that wasn't potty trained, so I just put him in undies and told him no more diapers. He didn't do great at first, but after a few weeks, totally gets it now. That doesn't mean he doesn't still have accidents (he will still poop in his pants occassionally if he's tired or in a foul mood and is just being stubborn), but he knows what to do now and the accidents are few and far between. He even does great at school now and hasn't had an accident there in 2 weeks (he is only there 2 days per week).

Anyway, all of that to say that with some kids, I think you're just going to have to do it at some point because they will never choose to do it on their own, but at 2 1/2 with a new sibling coming along in a couple of months, it will likely be an uphill battle for you. I suggest waiting until the baby is born and then playing up the "babies, like your sister/brother wear diapers. Big kids wear panties...want to try to wear panties like a big kid?" and see if she will go along with it then. I wish you much luck. Potty training is so frustrating and messy! But, I'm happy that this will be my last experience with it and (not to jinx myself) I think we're just about there! :-)

You keep saying that you want to do it when she decides she's ready..... But she's 2 1/2. My 2yo son likes to help me fold laundry, carry laundry to the washer, sweep, and clean things. He also likes to scream, kick, hit, fight over a toy, play with his weiner, get into my refrigerator, get into the pantry and eat the marshmallows, and sit on the couch all day and watch Toy Story. Fortunately for him, I am the parent. Kids don't always know what they SHOULD do, and it certainly isn't always what they WANT to do. You are her mom. I know you said you don't want to fight her. I feel that way too. We all feel that way. (We're not all pregnant, but their are plenty of mom's who are) It's hard, but you can't just give up because it's too hard. Potty-training is no fun. I started potty-training my son a month before his second birthday. It's difficult sometimes, but that's how potty-training goes. Your daughter will have good days and bad days. The more patient you are the easier it will be for both of you. The first few days are always the worst. Just do it and get it over with.

My daughter is going to be 3 in december and she has only been potty trained for about 3 weeks now. I had a baby about 3 months ago so I can understand your stress. She was doing well and then decided at home she could care less if she was wet. I decided to put a little potty in the middle of our dining room so she could see it all the time and a treat container at every toilet. ( I gave her 2 M&Ms when she went on the toilet) She loved getting the treats. I also bought a few toys and told her when she was dry all day she could have one of the toys. I put the toys on the back side of the toilet so she could see them. It took a bit but when you start praising them for the good job they are doing they will want to do it more.

I found myself getting angry with her when she was refusing and I believe she would refuse because of my anger. When I calmed myself down and gave her more praise and told her when she was wet what she could get next time if she made the choice to use the potty she started to get excited.

Try to slow down. She has to make the decision to be potty trained. My daughter thought it was neat to wear the underwear over her pullup. I do think the training underwear are great. They have a few accidents but they will get it. Try to not get angry.. Lots of praise and you could have it done before you know it.

You have to go to the real deal underwear. Have her pick out her favorites...Hello Kitty or Minne Mouse, whatever.

It is the only way they will really learn...pull ups are the biggest potty training joke ever pulled on parents. They are good if they are not night time dry.

Just do it...I would pack a bag just for going to the store...beach towel to put in the cart, clorox wipes, change of clothes, plastic bags...and go.

My 30 month old did the exact same thing when i started to train her. She got it within a week and did great, put i had her in pull ups. So once she realized she could still pee in her pull ups and not really be wet she treated it like a diaper. So finally i stopped buying them and bought big girl panties. The first week she had a few accidents but COULD NOT stand to be wet. I put her potty chair in the room where she plays the most and so when she'd have to go I'd say "Hold it, run, lets go lets go!" to show her when she feels the need to pee, go do it now! She caught on.. and now at 30 months she still tells me she needs to go but takes off running for the bathroom and does it all by herself. I just check her over and make sure theres no issues. Once she realized this was something she could do "all by herself" she wanted to do it more.

Sometimes they just don't get it until they are wearing the real deal panties.. and then they just don't like it. If she has an accident.. she's so apologetic... "im so sorry mommy, i didn't mean to" it makes me feel so bad. Just be encouraging that this is a big girl thing, and tell her how much of a big girl she is becoming, let her pick out her own panties. Mine picked out minnie mouse she thinks they are like the best ever! And when she became fully potty trained my mom made her a pillow and told her how proud she was of becoming such a big girl. And you could tell it totally clicked with my daughter. Remember it's easy to get on to your kids, but we sometimes forget to tell them when they are doing so well! Make it a happy process and praise her A LOT for it! Good Luck!

as if my post isn't long enough.. in one of my baby books theres a section on potty training, and it talks about taking an entire weekend and letting them run around with out anything on the bottom portion of their body and putting the potty chair in the same room with them and spending the whole weekend in ONLY that room. its called the "Bare Bottom Technique" you might could try that too.