Anniversary - Middleport,NY

If he seemed like he appreciated the card, and y'all had a good evening then probably not. I always go all out for my husband for birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, etc. He never really gets me much, but what he does get me has sentimental value and it means the world. (=

Let him have his moment. He knows your usual gift-giving protocol and he chose to break it. Probably because he wanted to surprise you and show you how special and wonderful he thinks you are. My husband always does this, we set a limit, I stick to it, he doesn't, and then I feel like a tool. :) Finally, I asked him why, and he told me it makes him feel good to give me things. He loves to see my face when I open gifts, and my appreciation is all he wants. Maybe you can go a little above and beyond on his birthday because you want to and you want to show your love, not because you feel the need to even things out.

Aw, how sweet! Just let him know he's a hero and how much you appreciate it. He knows you don't normally do stuff for your anniversary. Be thankful. Bask in the glow of his love for you. He went above and beyond. It isn't a contest. Enjoy it! I'm so happy for you!

My husband does this to me all the time. You would think I would learn when he says we're buying something small for our anniversary or birthdays. I used to feel bad, but he told me that he buys me these things because he wants to, not because he's expecting something in return. It sounds like you had a wonderful time and your husband did something nice for you. If you bought something now, it would appear that it was an after-thought and not something you wanted to do, but felt obligated to do. I think if you really want to do something, wait until his birthday and surprise him then.

R.,
Happy 25th Anniversary!! For our 25th my husband bought me a diamond penant and I didn't get him anything. Things were tight for us, we have 5 kids, 2 were in college and so was I. Our anniversary is on Valentine's Day so we don't go out that night as a rule, but we were supposed to go out to dinner the next night when our daughter and son could take the 2 little ones with them for the night. On that day (anniversary) he fell at work and broke his wrist and injured his other shoulder but I still made our anniversary dinner, our son and daughter came home and took the boys out for pizza. A few days later we did go out to dinner and sat in the car on the beach. His birthday is 6 days later so I went out and got him sports memorbilia as he is a HUGE Yankees fan, bought him chocolate from Thompson's Candy Co., then made him these tickets for things like a backrub, free pass on clearing the driveway, breakfast in bed, etc., and I took him out to dinner. He loved everything and told me it was the best birthday ever. Like you we are not big on buying anything for birthdays, etc. other than Christmas. Oh and for the record the guys are supposed to buy us things and we don't really have to do the same. My father used to always get my mother something for their anniversary, she never bought him anything. We go above and beyond for our husbands and children and we deserve it once in a while. :-)
T.

I'm sure he doesn't expect anything... like what he gave you.

I just had my anniversary... 13 years, and my Husband forgot. I got nada.
I got him just a couple of things, non-expensive since we have a budget.
I was bummed... he forgot. Most men do. I think?
How delightful of your husband to have remembered yours.

all the best,
Susan

Don't let your 25th slide.I was asked for a divorce on mine!Found out my best friend was controlling my husband ,because men can easily be controlled,if you know what I mean.
We have talked through this and will be heading for the 30th.She is out of the picture,but my guard is always up.Have my doubts each and every day if I should trust my husband.Why do I stick by him is my wedding vows.Life is hard,but love is important .Good luck and keep your faith.

I think you should get him something, and get him something for the anniversary, not the birthday, as it's not the same thing. He got you something for your anniversary to show you (I'm assuming) how happy he has been to be your husband for the 25 years, and to give you something to look at to remind you of that. Since he has made that gesture, you should do the same. Giving him something for his birthday is not the same at all.

It doesn't have to be anything as expensive as what he gave you, and I don't even think you have to give it to him soon (i.e. don't rush to buy just anything so you can give it to him now). Find something, or maybe even make something, like a collage of photos from your 25 years together - you can use shutterfly, etc. to do that for you if you can scan the photos into digital form. And then surprise him on a random day with his favorite meal or activity, and the gift.

From what I can tell, you have a wonderful husband. Consider yourself blessed, and let him know it : )

What a great guy. He was probably just moved to get you something special because he thinks you're a great wife (not because he wanted something in return). I wouldn't get him something now as an afterthought, but maybe you could get a special gift some day just "out of the blue". For now, the best gift you could give him is to make a big deal out of your ring. Show it off to all your friends in front of him, telling them how sweet and wonderful he is. What greater gift can you a guy than to make him feel that you are proud of him?