I feel your pain. My son got his first ear infection when he was 6 months old. We were at the doctor every two and a half to three weeks because of them. It was horrible. He is now 12 years old and we still have ear trouble (though not as severe or as often) and I am as sure as I ever was that it is because of allergies.
I did look up the Eardoc you mentioned. I must say, after years of experience with ear troubles, I would not depend on that at all. I was very diligent in getting him to the doctor and treating the infections with antibiotics. Still, my son has permanent hearing loss. My suggestion is to get your daughter on some strong antibiotics to actually clear up the infection and then to keep her on some maintenance antibiotics to help keep a new infection from occuring. Please understand that the fluid in your daughters ears will, at some point, wear a groove in the bones and begin to affect her hearing in a permanent way.
I understand your disappointment with the ENT not even looking in your daughter's ears before talking about tubes. I would have been upset as well. However, if you were referred by her primary care doctor, chances are, he has already received her file and is familiar with you daughter's history of ear infections. I would suggest you ask for a referral to another ENT for a second opinion. Doctors are smart, but sometimes they "decide" that something needs to be done without really looking at the entire picture or based on what has happened with other patients.
I am all for alternative medicines, however, in this case, I would advise you to stick with western medicine. The consequences of the infection continuing and the damage it causes are too severe.
Another thing we have learned along the journey....The adenoids sit on top of the other end of the eustation tube. They put some pressure on the tube on a good day. If they are swollen, they can pinch of the other end to the point that they cannot drain properly. When my son had tubes put in the first time (at two), the doctor asked me, on the day of surgery, if I would like to have his adenoids removed as well. I asked if there was any reason to and he said there wasn't, so we left them intact. He never explained where they were or that they swell with allergy or sinus probolems. It wasn't until I went to an allergist and she said my son's tonsils needed to come out and she showed me a detailed picture of "all thee stuff in there." (I'll admit, the picture was actually for my son so he would know what was going to happen and where, but I found it fascinating.) When we went back to our ENT to discuss and schedule the surgery, I took the picture. I pointed out the adenoids and told him I thought they needed to go as well because of their position in relation to his tubes. He told me i just made his job easier and we did it. I must tell you, things have been SOOOOO much better. Rather than having 6-8 infections a year, my son now has 2-3.
Oh! You might also have a dentist look at your daughter's mouth. I know it sounds crazy, but my son also has a really high arch in the roof of his mouth. That means that his sinus cavity is much smaller than it should be. Again causing drainage problems. We are going to get him braces with a palate expander to bring that down some. The ear doctor said that it could very well help and make his next surgery to replace the eardrum a better success (he blew the new eardrum out the first time).
On the tubes in the ears, I am not against tubes, but they DO NOT prevent ear infections. My son had as many with tubes as he did without. If the fliud in your daughter's ears is as think as my son's was, the tubes will simply become blocked with it and she will wind up blowing the tubes out. My son did that twice. Yes, it took me too times before I said that we would not do the tubes again. I switched ENTs at that time as well because not happy with me for not going the tube route again. The one good thing about the tubes is that they drain the infection out of the ears when they place the tubes. It gives them about a month clear. Woo Hoo!
I know that is a lot of information, but I have been there and want you to have all the info I have learned over the years. I know that I am forgetting something and if I think of it later I will add it.
Good luck to you. I hope some of what I have shared is of help to you.
PS The saline drops is what I was forgetting. So glad someone mentioned them. If you will use the saline mist 2-3 times a day (wouldn't ue more than that as it can cause her nose to become too dried out) that will help if it is indeed allergy related. It will flush the allergens out of her nose. Now, I would not put the drops in and then suction out her nose like we typically do babies. That will actually wash some of the allergens right on through. It may take two people to do it this way, but keep her and the saline bottle upright and just squirt a mist into her nose and let it drain back out itself. If that is not tolerated, you might try using moistened q-tips to wipe out the nostrils. I would suggest doing it anytime she has been outside, upon awakening in the morning, and any other time she has been exposed to allergens.
Also, if she has an infection or you think she may be getting one (if you think it, it is probably already there), limit all dairy products. The dairy products will thicken the mucous. Sometimes it is hard to make kiddos understand that they cannot have the milk they want or the cheese. Try soy. We discovered it because of the infections and still drink it occassionally because it does taste good (some of it anyway).