S.W.
I have the same problem, and have found only one hair dresser in Santa Rosa, California who carries a hair dye that suits me. It is very difficult to get in the US, as it is from the UK, but you can try. It is a "botanical" hair dye by Schwarzkopf. This is the only thing that has worked and it looks great on my hair! Let me know, if you find anyone in the San Diego area who carries it... ____@____.com.