Hi Meredith-
My daughter, who is now 14 months, was diagnosed with VUR when she was just 2 weeks old. Stage 3-4 on the left side. After recovering from her initial kidney infection (when we diagnosed the reflux), she was put on a daily antibiotic for almost a year. At that time I had read all the medical literature about the controversy of daily antibiotic prophylaxis, and how they weren't finding much of an advantage for its use. (I.e. the infection recurrence rate for those using a daily antibiotic versus those who were not was virtually equal). But I decided to go ahead and do the antibiotic anyway, and here is why: my daughter's AGE. For a four or five year old to get a bladder/kidney infection, it is not that big of a deal. They can tell you immediately if their tummy is hurting, they are having trouble going potty, or their pee pee is burning. You can get them in right away, do a urine culture (without a catheter!), and get them treated. A baby can't do that. Young babies can't tell you if they are upset because their teeth are coming in, they are tired, they have ear pain, or have a raging kidney infection! I didn't want to be second-guessing every time my daughter was particularly fussy or was having a rough day. But I didn't want to hold off from taking her to the doctor either since even a small infection can lead to kidney damage which is PERMANENT! If we could prevent even ONE big infection (and potential hospital stay) with a daily antibiotic, I figured it was worth it. Besides, the amount she took was very, very small-- hardly much of anything. We experienced no side effects either.
Things were very uneventful for about 8 months, but then she did end up having two break-through infections (even while on the antibiotic!), which they said was pretty unusual. So at that time, I requested they get her in for surgery as soon as possible. The previous infection had been a very weird bug that is resistant to tons of stuff and that totally freaked me out! So in October, at 10 months old, she had the uretural reimplantation surgery performed at Children's Hospital in Iowa City. Everything went very smoothly, and we only had to spend one night there. The day after we went home, she was up and walking around again. We continued the Bactrim for an additional 12 weeks while the bladder was healing. But now we are totally done with everything, and never have to worry about VUR again.
As for alternative therapies, there really aren't any. I had asked about taking cranberry juice and yogurt, which is full of pro-biotics. The doctors encouraged me to give these to her because they are good for her, but not because they prevent infections associated with VUR. Incidentally, she was taking yogurt every single day when she had the break-through infections.
Hope some of this helps. I am sure you will make the best decision for you little boy, whatever that might be. Feel free to email me at ____@____.com if you want to know more about our experience with VUR.
~ C.