9 y.o. Girl Asking Her Grandfather to Sleep with Her in the Fort She Build..

Updated on September 20, 2017
L.H. asks from Denver, CO
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My husband went to visit his family in another state to babysit his 9 years old granddaughter. There is pool in backyard, (so a lots of physical interaction there already). This is nicely set comfortable single family house with bedrooms for everyone plus guest room. The night before family gets back, she, 9 years old girl asking her grandfather to sleep with her in the fort she build. It was short text from my husband to inform me he will sleep with her in "fort she build". After that his phone was off.
Next morning my husband called me and his voice was full of guild and sound like not himself.
This girl was born from high school first love of her mother and she did not know her biological father, till couple of years ago. There is distant relationship between them. She was adapted by her mother husband and they have 2 years of old baby boy now. Being a princess, she became a nanny.

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W.W.

answers from Washington DC on

L.

Welcome to mamapedia....

I don't get any of this. here is your post....

My husband went to visit his family in another state to babysit his 9 years old granddaughter.
* She's NOT your grand daughter as well?
* Why did he go alone?

There is pool in backyard, (so a lots of physical interaction there already).
* what do you mean by "physical interaction"?

This is nicely set comfortable single family house with bedrooms for everyone plus guest room.
* okay - what does this have to do with anything?

The night before family gets back, she, 9 years old girl asking her grandfather to sleep with her in the fort she build. It was short text from my husband to inform me he will sleep with her in "fort she build". After that his phone was off.
* you don't trust your husband with a child?
* Why did he turn his phone off?

Next morning my husband called me and his voice was full of guild and sound like not himself.
* what is "guild"? you mean GUILT? Did you ASK him about the night?
* did you automatically conclude something bad happened?
* did you accuse?
* could it be that he slept on the ground and was TIRED?

This girl was born from high school first love of her mother and she did not know her biological father, till couple of years ago.
* so this girl is his daughter's daughter?
* this daughter is NOT your child - you are the step mother and don't care enough to call her your step-daughter and/or family?

There is distant relationship between them.
* A distant relationship between WHO??? Your husband and his daughter? That seems odd if she asked him to come out and care for her daughter when they were out of town...

She was adapted by her mother husband and they have 2 years of old baby boy now.
* You mean she was ADOPTED - meaning the 9 year old girl was adopted by her mother's husband? Does SHE know he adopted her?

Being a princess, she became a nanny.
* What does being a princess have to do with being a nanny?

What exactly is your concern here?
What is your question?
As you can see - I have more questions than answers.

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L.C.

answers from Washington DC on

He didn't sound like himself? He slept outside in a fort! You'd not sound like yourself either!

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L.U.

answers from Seattle on

I have no idea what your question is.

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D..

answers from Miami on

You call her a "princess". That tells me you don't like her. Is the 9 year old her daughter? Do I have that right? Your post is very hard to understand.

I do think that I am understanding right that you think something happened with your husband and the 9 year old. Do you trust your husband that little? Has he really ever given you the idea that he would do something like this?

A 9 year old is in 3rd grade. And she just started 3rd grade. I don't think that there is anything terribly strange about that. Unless she has been abused by someone else, she would not think of sleeping in the fort as a sexual thing.

If your husband had not sent that text, you probably wouldn't have thought a thing about his subsequent call. You had preconceived notions based on his text.

I will tell you one thing - if I falsely accused my husband of abusing a child, my marriage would be over. If my husband falsely accused me of abusing a child, his marriage would be over. That's not something you accuse a marriage partner over when you have no proof of it.

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B.C.

answers from Norfolk on

Are you implying anything improper?
Ask your question plainly and don't pussy foot around it.
You know the motto of the Order of the Garter?
"Shame on him who thinks evil of it"

Additional:
If your husband is a convicted pedophile, then he's got no business baby sitting any kids family or not.
If he's not - I'm not really sure what your problem with the situation is.

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M.C.

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You sound like you think your husband molested his granddaughter? If you believe this could actually happen, then you should do something. But what are you basing this on? I would have camped out with either of my grandpas when I was 9 with no issues whatsoever. Do you have reason to believe your husband is a molester? I'm not sure where you are going with the rest of your post. Does it matter how the child was conceived, who her parents are, OR are you saying the GIRL might fancy grandpa? That's a whole other ball game that you would be insinuating!!! The part about the nanny just makes no sense in the context of your post. Please come back and clarify if you want helpful answers, especially if you truly think you need guidance with molestation issues.

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H.M.

answers from Dallas on

What is your question? Your post makes no sense at all.

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